Save Your Marriage Alone - Maybe Some Sneaky Tactics Will Help You Pull It Off

Dec 3
09:55

2010

W. Scott

W. Scott

  • Share this article on Facebook
  • Share this article on Twitter
  • Share this article on Linkedin

Trying to save your marriage alone with no help from your spouse is a tough job and you are to be commended for considering it. With a little help from some sneaky tactics you probably have not tried you could be successful. Take a look.

mediaimage
Being in a bad marriage is tough enough,Save Your Marriage Alone - Maybe Some Sneaky Tactics Will Help You Pull It Off Articles but having to save your marriage alone without any help from your spouse is a really difficult spot to be in. If you want to fix your marriage the first thing I need to know is are you really sure about this?Because if you are not dead serious about the task then you may want to reconsider. If you are sure you want to heal your relationship with your spouse then I want to do all I can to help.Focusing on your goal of saving your marriage alone is good on the one hand, but not to the point that you have tunnel vision and do not see the bigger picture. Depending on the problems you are facing you may be fighting the wrong battle.If your marriage problems stem from a single issue with your spouse like drinking, drugs or infidelity and they will not admit the problem, your task is nearly insurmountable.Sneaky tactics to the rescue?One of the things I have learned is that people's behavior is very much determined by what drives them. If something brings them pleasure, they do it. If it brings pain, they avoid it.The key can be to determine what it is that is motivating your spouse.Once you can figure out what things will cause a certain reaction from your spouse you can actually begin to influence their behavior in a direction that you want it to go.I often refer to this as the Colonel Klink syndrome from the old TV show "Hogan's Heroes". (If you are too young to remember this show, that's OK.) The point is that the show's namesake would manipulate his captor by "pushing the right buttons", usually involving ego.But he also knew that the only way Colonel Klink would do something is if he thought it was his OWN idea, not Hogans. Starting to get the picture?Often a person will berate his or her spouse with nagging, pleading, screaming and shouting only to find out that it usually does little good. Oh, maybe they do end up taking out the trash or whatever but they are muttering against you the entire time.In order to save your marriage alone you need to make the desired behavior their idea, what THEY want.One of the programs we work with deals with something called "Mind Magic". It includes a number of ways of causing other people to do what you want them to do.Sounds illegal, doesn't it?The thing is though, all you have to do is subtly show the person that the outcome you desire is what they want; and in a marriage, it often is anyway. The trick is to get them to come to that conclusion on their own.The benefit to you is that you are no longer trying to save your marriage alone; now you have your spouse's help.One of the sneaky tactics we use is called a Monkey Fist, based on the knot tied on the end of a rope. While I cannot get into a full explanation here, the point is to use an easy task to pull along a more difficult task.Your spouse only sees the easy task, though, and does not realize how they are setting themselves up naturally for the more difficult goal.Cool, huh?Another is the Self Image Judo Magic. Judo is a martial art that uses your opponent’s strength or force against him. It is deadly effective. (We are not trying to physically hurt anyone here!)The reason we call it Judo is because it uses the opponent's, your spouse, strength to your advantage. It is all done without raising your voice, starting an argument or touching your "opponent" in any way.And it can be very effective at getting the "Colonel Klink" in your life to accept your idea as his or her own.Do you think a little Mind Magic might help you save your marriage alone? This is only one item in our "box of sneaky tactics" that could help you get what you want.Get the complete toolbox of marriage saving strategies specially designed for your situation. Come to http://www.RelationshipAdviceHelp.com and let us help you get started immediately.

Categories: