Choose To Be Happy

Feb 28
22:00

2003

Selena Richardson

Selena Richardson

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What if I told you that you have the ability to decide if you are
happy or not. You would probably say that I'm crazy. 1. I'm not
crazy and 2. Happiness is a choice.

You can't depend on someone else to make you happy. That is a
lesson I learned early on in my marriage. I realized that I
couldn't rely on my husband as my source of happiness. I learned
that my happiness depended on me and not my husband's actions. I
learned that you have to choose to be happy.

You can choose your emotions. True happiness comes from within,
it can't be forced by outside forces. So how do you choose
happiness? The same away you choose to smile or choose to wear a
certain outfit. You choose it because that's what you want to
experience in your life.

You want to buy a new pair of shoes so you choose a pair that you
like and feels good. You wouldn't buy a pair of shoes that you
don't like or that don't fit well,Choose To Be Happy Articles right? So why do we keep
choosing emotions and feelings that don't make us feel good?

Well most people don't realize that you can choose feeling happy
over feeling angry or upset about something. It's not wrong to
feel angry or upset but dwelling on it and letting the anger
simmer for too long can have bad results.

Choosing to be happy after you realize your anger has shown up
(or even choosing to be calm) can be beneficial. You end up
acknowledging your anger and moving on instead of harboring those
emotions until there's a flare up. We choose our feelings, no
one can do that for us. If we let others get to us, influence our
emotions - we are giving them power over us. When others cause
us anger or pain, we are giving them our power.

What about those who irritate us or make us mad? We have the
power of choice but most times we react out of anger. Instead of
taking a mental time out and knowing that what that person said
is about them we unconsciously choose to react. The reaction is
usually out of anger or fear. It's a re-action, not an action.

How do we stop this behavior? We need to keep our feelings in
check and not react automatically to what is thrown at us. We
need to think our actions out instead of just reacting to what
someone says or does. Reacting is responding to someone else's
actions. What we need to do is act on our own accord and not let
the actions of others influence us. By doing that we stay
conscious of our own thoughts and feelings and not let what
others do to us affect our moods.

Remember that we can always choose happiness. At first it will
be difficult to just switch your thoughts and feelings from
anger, self-doubt, or fear to joy and happiness. But it is only
a thought away. Don't dwell on what happens to you unnecessarily
but realize what is causing you to feel that way. Realize that
thoughts, feelings and emotions can change. Then move on and
choose to be happy.

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