To Be or To Do -- That Is The Question

A reader wrote me this week saying she was lost, confused and was having difficulty finding out what she wanted to do with her life. Another similar email came the very next day. There seems to be a huge groundswell of people asking the same question… “What do I do with my life?”

I would ask you this question…What would you BE in your life?

Somehow, someway, you have to BE you first, then you DO what you love.

To BE who you are sounds very simple, but it is not. All of us are programmed from a very early age to DO something so we can BE somebody. We learned that certain professions mean success, and others are not. Go to school! BE a lawyer, a doctor, or whatever it was in your town. We learned that money meant you could BE someone. After all, how could you BE someone unless you had a nice house, a nice car and belonged to the right crowds?

To BE your Self requires action on our parts to ensure the outside influences stay on the outside. Being your Self means searching deep within to define what is most important to you (your values), and then consciously making every choice available based on those values. With time, we cannot help but BE who we are! Being who you are brings a confidence and helps to understand that where you are now is good. You realize a comfort in knowing there is no struggle to DO something so you can BE somebody.

In other words, being your Self releases you from the pressure of having to BE someone else!

The big question then is: How do I know what I love to do?

What did you love to do as a child? What are your hobbies? What do you dream about? What did you dream about doing as a kid? What would you do even if you did not get paid for it? Answer these questions. Ask your family to help you. Search within your Self for the answer.

Do not hurry. There is plenty of time. Consciously work on being yourself every minute. Become comfortable with that and let others become comfortable with you. Allow the Universe to guide you. Ask for help. It doesn’t hurt! Then look for opportunities and answers.

I think you will find that the answers you seek are right in front of you!