How to Save a Relationship Before it’s Too Late

Relationships are hard work. Marriage doesn’t come with a handbook on what to do when there is a lull in the relationship. Many people enter a marriage thinking that everything will be perfect and like a fairytale forever and for those of you, who have been in a relationship for quite some time, know that is simply not true. It takes hard work, and lots of it to keep a relationship full of life and passion and sometimes saving a relationship can even be more work that the marriage itself. 

Step One: In It to Win It

When trying to get your relationship back on track, you must be sure to make it your number one priority. Don’t let schedules, work or kids get in the way of saving your important relationship. Remember, putting those other things first is what got your relationship in trouble to begin with. True, it is not realistic to think that you can just disown your children or put your work on the back burner, but you are in control of making your relationship repair an important part of your every day life. Once the kids are in bed, instead of turning on the television, try talking to your partner instead. Simple communication about how your day was or lending an ear to listen about your spouse’s day may be just the thing to keep your relationship healthy.

Step Two: It Takes Two to Tango

When a relationship fails, it is often because one of the partners has emotionally “checked out” of the relationship. There is no point in trying to save a relationship if the other person is not willing or does not have the desire to put any effort into rectifying the problem. If both partners are receptive to helping the relationship, you certainly have a fighting chance in making your marriage or relationship stronger than ever. 

Step Three: It’s Not All About You

Everyone likes to be the center of attention, but in relationships, that can get a bit tiring. While it feels great to have attention lavished upon you and to be the focus in your relationship, without it being reciprocated, your partner will tire of this rather quickly. Stepping back from the limelight and recognizing all of the nice things and attention that your partner gives to you is a good place to start. Show them you care by lavishing attention on them for a change. You will have your spot again and this time, it will feel much better because you know that your partner knows how much you love and appreciate them as well.

Saving a relationship can be hard work, but once you have gotten back to that place where you were in the beginning of your relationship, you will see that it was all worth it.