When we must part with a loved one, we have physical and ... ... beyond our control. Our ... ... skills can help us manage them. Having someone you love deployed is extremel
When we must part with a loved one, we have physical and emotional reactions beyond our control. Our emotional intelligence skills can help us manage them. Having someone you love deployed is extremely stressful.
PROTEST-DESPAIR
Newborns separated from their mothers show us the extremes of "protest-despair behavior." When the infant is
separated, the body reacts, pumping out stress hormones that affect the nervous system and muscle groups. Cortisol,
the 'stress' hormone, can increase 10x, and gastrointestinal functions are upset. Then there's withdrawal, heart rate slows, body temperature lowers (presumably attempts to "survive"), and the immune system gets out of kilter.
Any separation from a loved one during our lifetime will mimic this reaction because we're humans, because we love, because we bond. The price we pay is that separation is painful.
At the same time, if the person being deployed is your lover, you'll be deprived of the oxytocin, that delicious love-hormone that makes us feel good even thinking about our loved one.
WHAT TO EXPECT
Expect things to make you angry. You want to hear is it's all a joke, it isn't happening, and anything short of that won't work.
That having been said, it's normal to:
·Feel like you're going nuts
·Cry a lot
·Have trouble making decisions
·Have no appetite
·Sleep too much or not at all
·Feel angry
WHAT CAN HELP?
* Don't isolate yourself. "Share your thoughts, vent your anger, or ask for help," says the Submarine Wives Club.
Check out their website ( http://www.submarinewives.org )
for support groups, and useful information.
* Hire a coach. http://www.coachfederation.org
* Develop your emotional intelligence; build resilience.
* Focus on yourself and keep the momentum going. Learn something new, develop a new skill.
* Practice xtreme self-care - exercise, get massages, and
eat right.
"Coal in Your Stocking" and Other Festive Drinks for the 12 Days of Christmas
... ... from an immense variety of colorful spirits and juices, served in unique ... and topped with exotic ... a cocktail is meant to be seen as well as ... (www.baThe Top 10 Things to Remember the Night Before (the) Christmas (Office Party)
Smart reindeer know that "office party" is an ... Brush up on your EQ at Work ... before you go, because Senior ... is going to be making a list and checking it twice to see who's nPlanning on Doing Some International Travel Over the Holidays?
... No really, a little EQ - managing the ... and using the ole noggin' can make it almost ... Pack your patience and your ... ... down the ... turn up