You Get to Want What You Want

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You Get to Want What You Want

"What's terrible is to pretend that the second-rate is
first-rate. To pretend that you don't need love when you do; or
you like your work when you know quite well you're capable of
better." - Doris Lessing

When you tap into your inner voice and identify your vision, you
bring to life your deepest longing. Your vision manifests the
essence of you based on your truth, values, creativity, and
authenticity. Putting yourself out into the world in this way can
feel risky; the thought of that risk can easily block your from
seeing your vision.

A vision can be small or large, and have an impact on your daily
life or the big picture of your life. For example, a vision of
the ideal day care situation for my baby forms in my mind as his
birth grows closer. I'm counting on the vision of what I truly
desire to assist in attracting the optimal child care
situation. In the whole scheme of life, this is a smaller vision,
yet no less important. And this "smaller" vision makes a direct
impact on my ability to realize my far-reaching vision for my
coaching business.

A vision that's compelling for you is often right at your
fingertips. We all have an inkling of the vision we'd like to put
into the world: the forgotten dream, the "ridiculous" idea, and
the "unrealistic" business venture. You are born knowing what you
want at your deepest core. After awhile, many of us begin to
settle for what we think we're allowed to have. "Just okay"
becomes good enough. "It's fine" becomes a way of life. The
parameters of our wanting become defined by what the saboteur and
family, friends, or a significant other tell us we are allowed to
have.

I was recently speaking with a client about this exact
topic. Patrick related to me that at some point in his life, he
just stopped dreaming. Caught up in the routine of daily life, he
stopped thinking about his visions for the present and the
future. At the end of our coaching session, I gave Patrick an
exercise to take away and ponder. His task was to look at eight
areas of his life: health, career, money, friends and family, fun
and recreation, physical environment, and personal growth, and
create a vision that he'd LOVE to be living for each one. During
our next call, he revealed his visions to me. We discovered that
he had equated vision with what he was willing to live with. I
pushed him to tap into what he would really love to manifest in
his life. YOU GET TO WANT WHAT YOU WANT. This is where vision is
born.

Believe it or not, there is no "judge of desire" holding court to
decide if your vision is legitimate or not. "Well, Bill's been a
good boy and his want is modest, so he can pursue the career he's
always wanted. The vision committee will allow his dream to come
true. But Samantha-the committee doesn't believe that her
business idea is a go. Too ambitious. Too risky. Who does she
think she is?" Excavating your vision is an act of not only
moving past internal barriers, but of claiming the authentic
desires that are rightfully yours. In the process, you reclaim
yourself.

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Claudette Rowley, coach and author, helps professionals
identify and pursue their true purpose and calling in life.
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