Women and Orgasms

The Assisted Orgasm

When you orgasm using a vibrator, physiologically, the same things are happening; your clitoris is stimulated until the muscles of your vagina contract in a pleasurable way. Vibrators are designed to stimulate your body and bring you to climax.

For some women, this might feel less intense because it requires less work. For others, it might feel more explosive because the vibrator sends pleasure giving motion exactly where it’s needed. You also have the control, whether you’re going solo or with a man.

Some women find that a powerful vibrator means you don’t even have to fantasize or give yourself foreplay. A serious machine will have you over the moon before you even take it out the box.

The Rocking Orgasm

Sometimes, penetration isn’t possible for a number of reasons, such as mutual soreness, his unpredictable equipment or your period. Intercourse isn’t an orgasm guarantee; all you need is clitoral stimulation. Simply wrapping your thighs fully around his thigh can give you a surprising amount of pleasure.

Grind against his body so that your vulva and clitoris are in contact with him. The sensation is new and different because this position takes advantage of a little known fact; the bit that you identify as the clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg, poking out the front of your vagina; the rest is just under the skin of the labia, extending along each side in a wishbone shape and into your body.

When you smash your entire apparatus against him, you’re reaching all of this pleasure giving equipment – a bit removed, as it’s under the skin, but still quite amazing. It’s perfect for times when he comes first but you’re still pumping. Plus, he’ll be so turned on by watching you move that he’s likely to be ready to go again when you’re done.

The Fast and Furious Orgasm

When you’re overcome with must-have-you lust and grab your man for ravenous sex, you tend to have a fast and furious orgasm. You don’t have to work for it because you’re already revved up. This one is fun because you seldom put on the brakes. Lust overtakes any performance issues.

But is it possible to cultivate a must-have-you moment? Yes! You have to feed the sexual stream between you and your man all day long. A naughty text or a suggestion in the morning that something sexy will happen later creates anticipation. If you think he’s up for a quickie but your own performance is slow to get going, just keep yourself hot ahead of time in whatever way works for you. Set aside some time before you see him to daydream, read something erotic or just rev your own engine before he arrives. For fast and furious orgasms, readiness is all.

The Full Body Orgasm

Imagine feeling ecstasy not just in your pants but throughout your entire body. Take a moment to be aware of different parts of your body. Try imagining the shimmery feeling of energy as far away from your genitals as possible and filling your body with pleasure.

To get to this magical place, you need to banish self-consciousness and criticism – the enemies of pleasure – from your mind. Try to appreciate all the amazing things your body does and celebrate the way it looks. Experiment with taking a deep breath during orgasm. Really focus on expanding that feeling throughout your body. Visualize the pleasure as an oval shape that pushes up from your genitals into a larger area of your body. At first, you may just feel extra ecstasy radiating to your belly. But over time you can extend that pleasure (through breathing and visualization) to the tips of your fingers and toes.

The Wellness Orgasm

Much research has been done on the link between sexual stimulation and pain reduction. Simply put, if you can manage to get turned on when you’re in pain, the resulting relaxation of muscles and the influx of oxytocin will lessen your aches. As you become more aroused, your pain threshold increases dramatically. That’s why you might find a post-coital bite mark that you don’t remember getting. Orgasm is good medicine, especially for pain like menstrual cramps.