3 Big Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Broke Up With You

May 27
08:08

2015

Anthony Malibu

Anthony Malibu

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What did your boyfriend tell you when he broke things off? Find out the REAL reasons he ended your relationship, and why it's probably not what you think!

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Everyone breaks up - it's a part of dating. But not everyone knows exactly why.

If your boyfriend broke up with you,3 Big Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Broke Up With You Articles and you still want him back? You'll need to learn the REAL reasons he let you go. Because what a guy says - and what he truly means - during a breakup are usually two very different things.

The bad news is that your ex lied to you. The good news is that no matter how he broke up with you, there's always a path - a series of words and actions - that will lead you back into your boyfriend's arms.

But before any of that, you need to know exactly why he ended things.

When trying to reverse an unwanted breakup, your biggest danger is that you believed everything your boyfriend said about why he's letting you go. In truth, you had no reason not to. He probably sounded sincere, and you were probably too upset to realize he was pretty much snowing you.

Want the truth? Guys will VERY RARELY tell you the real reasons they're ending a relationship. And this is because they're not looking to give you an honest explanation... they're more interested in getting out as quickly and cleanly as possible.

So what do they do? They lie. They tell you the most irrefutable things. "It's not you, it's me". Or something like "I need some time alone" or "I'm not ready to be serious right now". All of this is bogus, of course. What he's really saying is that he's not ready to be serious with YOU.

Guys will lie about why they broke up with you in order to move quickly away. They don't want arguments. They don't want begging or pleading or you saying that you'll "fix" whatever it is that's broken. Doing those things will push your ex away even further and faster than if you said nothing, so make sure you dont' make that mistake.

The REAL Reasons Why Your Boyfriend Broke Up With You

What you'll find next is a list of three main reasons a guy will normally break up with you. A few of them will be hard to accept, but you need to be honest with yourself and find the true reasons your romance ended if you want any hope of reconciliation.

You Tried to Control Him

Control. We all seek it, we all want it. But when we get it? We often abuse that power. And in this case, it's entirely possible you were way too controlling when it came to how you interacted with your ex boyfriend.

Think about how your boyfriend's life was in the beginning, when you first met him. Did he have lots of friends? Hobbies? Did he hang out with friends and family a lot more?

And what about now? If your ex shifted things so that he spent virtually all his time with you, he probably felt pressured. And if you resented him whenever he went out with friends or did things without you? This weighed on him heavily, over time.

Overly-controlling relationships always end badly. You can't control somebody and expect they're going to love you for it. Likewise, trying to control your ex boyfriend had a negative impact on you as well, because the more control you had? The more you wanted. It's a spiral of neediness that never seems to be fulfilled.

People who feel manipulated or controlled will grow increasingly distant. Did your ex feel that way? Eventually they leave, and usually without warning. The original feelings of love and affection were eroded away by constant pressure from what effectively becomes more of a 'parent' than a mate.

You Were Way too Insecure About Dating Him

This is one of those behaviors you don't even realize you're exhibiting. But every time you do, you're destroying your boyfriend's opinion of you just a little bit more.

Ask yourself this: did you always hound your ex boyfriend to say that he loved you? Did you ask him if you were beautiful?  What about his ex girlfriends? Did you compare yourself to them, or badmouth them, or try to get him to say you were the greatest lover he ever had?

Those questions are a big sign of insecurity. You should be living in the present, not the past, and you should be happy with the fact that your boyfriend loves you for YOU... and not frightened that he doesn't love you enough.

The worst thing about being insecure is that it can snowball quickly. The more you internally convince yourself that you're not good enough for him? The more HE believes it too. Your boyfriend stars wondering what happened to that strong, vibrant, independent girl he once loved so much. Suddenly she's been replaced by someone who needs constant reassurance and validation, to the point where it actually becomes annoying.

No relationship will survive if one person is terribly insecure about themselves, and about the status of the romance. You get what you give; and if all you're doing is taking away? Your guy will quickly lose interest in constantly trying to appease you.

You Were Always Jealous, All of the Time

Jealousy is powerful. But it's also very, very ugly.

When you're insecure for a long time, what happens is that insecurity manifests itself in the form of anger. And how do you display that anger? By constantly acting like a jealous girlfriend.

This is hard to see, especially when you turn your gaze inward to look at yourself. Nobody likes to think they're that jealous person. But ask your friends, or even those who knew you as a couple? And you might get a different answer.

A jealous girlfriend is never going to last. If you were constantly checking up on your boyfriend, swiping his phone to read his text-messages, following him in the dead of night or spying on him through friends or whatever? You were definitely "that girl".

What happens here is that this behavior slowly becomes 'normal' over time. You'll stop your boyfriend from looking or even talking to other girls, and all the while, you'll think it's 100% okay. Over time, things get more and more intense. Until one day your boyfriend looks and realizes "Wow, this is crazy!" And that's when he runs.

Again, your ex isn't going to say "I'm breaking up with you because you're too jealous." In an effort to get him back, you'll offer to fix that. Hell, you'll offer to fix anything. Instead, he'll say "I'm breaking things off because XYZ..." where XYZ is some bogus excuse for him to quit without argument.

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