4 Steps To Get Your Girlfriend Back

If you have just gone through an unwanted break up with the girl in your life, the only thing that is probably on your mind right now is how are you going to get your ex girlfriend back. But before before you go charging in and start calling her everyday and every night, pleading with her to take you back, there are steps that you need to take to get your girl back.

Step 1. Let The Situation Cool Down.

Firstly, don't deluge her with continual calls, texts, emails, or any other form of communication. This is a mistake that a loads of guys make when they want to get a girl back. Take a moment and think, because your heart is leading you more than your head. Trying to constantly get in touch with her is not a good idea and will only irritate her and push you further away.She may even block you or 'unfriend' you on social media websites.

Take time and let the situation cool down a bit. It is tough but your ex girlfriend is going to need some time and space to think. Don't do crazy things that may cause her to put a Legal Restraining Order on you. This does happen to some men after a break-up and it will only make a bad situation even worse.

Step 2. Have A Think About What Went Wrong.

The break up probably occurred because some mistakes and misunderstandings occurred. That may be down to you or her but is probably down to both of you in some form or other.

If you want to get your ex girlfriend back you have to know what caused the relationship to break up and then fix it and change from it. You have work out what caused it to go wrong and what can you do to stop it from happening again. Think about what she will want to know the next time you talk. She will ask if anything has changed and what you've done to stop another break up in the future because of the same problems.

Step 3. Recharge Yourself.

You're going to need keep yourself busy before making first contact with your ex girlfriend. Now is the time to find a new hobby, read that book you've been putting off, go to the gym and work out or discover some other interests you may have. One reason for the break up may be that you became boring to her and that you had nothing more to talk about.

Refresh your look and keep your mind occupied. The effort will be worth it later on when she thinks you're interesting again with all the new activities that you're doing.

Step 4. Slowly Restore Communication.

When you you meet for the first time after the break-up, make sure that the meeting is friendly, easy going and short. Remember that you are working to slowly restore communication which may have suffered after the break up. You won't get your ex girlfriend back quicker by speaking about your old relationship problems now. If you do discuss your problems at such an early stage, it can create arguments and neither of you are ready to deal with yet.

All you want out of the first meeting is small talk. Think of it as just checking in on her, letting her know you're still around, and that you have made some changes in your life. The distance between you has to be rebuilt slowly and you won't be able to be rebuild in one meeting and certainly not in your first meeting. There will be a time and a place to explore your relationship more in future meetings.

Winning A Girl Back.

The steps above will help you to get your ex girlfriend back if you stick to them and understand why they must happen the way they do. It will take work from both sides. Since you can only change yourself, and have no power to make your ex change, you must change what you have control over first.