Emailing Your Ex Girlfriend When You Want Her Back

After the end of a relationship, communication is often still carried on through the use of email, text-messaging, or even social networks such as Facebook or Myspace.  Keeping in touch with a girl you once dated is easy... but if you're trying to get back together with an ex girlfriend, you need to know when and how you should be emailing your ex.

No break up is permanent until both people have moved on.  That being said, you can't overly communicate right after the break up - especially in the case where your girlfriend broke up with you.  Making contact with your ex requires that you wait a while - at least a few weeks - until she's had enough time to process the break up and actually miss seeing or hearing from you.  Do this, and you'll have the best results when it comes to repairing a broken relationship.

When you want your ex back, it's only natural to want to reach out to her.  You'll see email or text-messaging as a quick and simple way of shooting her fast, seemingly innocent messages.  What you're doing here is not innocent however, especially if your advances are unwanted.  Getting back in your girlfriend's good graces requires you to know when you're making welcome friendly contact or when you're borderline harassing or stalking your ex electronically.  This isn't often easy.

Right after the break up occurs, you should both have some time alone.  Leaving your girlfriend to her own thoughts will actually make her see what things will be like without having you in her life.  This could result in making her miss you, or even contact you, very quickly.  But keeping in constant contact?  That type of communication doesn't allow your ex to miss you, because technically - even though you're no longer dating - you're still "around", and therefore still a part of her life.

For the first few days and weeks after you break up, toss your cellphone over your shoulder.  Unplug your computer, or don't check your email.  Leave your Facebook page alone - there's no need to change your status or write on someone's wall... anything and everything you do electronically can be tracked by your ex girlfriend.  Stop emailing your ex girlfriend, and instead, drop off the map for a while.  Let her wonder.  Let your ex get curious as to what you're up to, and worried that maybe you're moving on without her.  These are the things that will make your ex want you back - not constantly sending her messages to see "how she's doing".

Over time, your ex will be extremely curious about you.  This is the time to reconnect with her, and email is a fantastic way to do it.  Send her a quick joke, or forward a video one of your friends might have sent you that you think is funny.  At the bottom, attach a small note from yourself.  Ask how she's doing, or if school is going well, or how work has been.  Something casual and easy for her to answer.  This type of ex girlfriend contact requires her to answer you, but it does so in such a way that's non-desperate or pushy.  From there, there are some great techniques for getting back on track to reverse your break up, meet her for a reunion date, and eventually get back together with your ex again.