It was my fault, Can I still get back together with my ex?

Let's face it, almost every couple is going to have disagreements of some sort. Some of those relationship quarrels can be serious enough to lead to a break up. Sometimes the disagreement was severe enough to make you feel like there may not be any hope of saving your relationship, you start thinking about getting on with your life without your ex, and not even trying to make up.

Sadly enough there are relationships that can't be saved. Maybe you were in an abusive situation with your ex. Perhaps there has been some infidelity involved, it could be clear that there is no future together,or one or both of you has lost interest in the relationship, you simply don't love each other any more. Or worse yet all of the above. Truth is; Even these types of relationships can be saved, but why would you want to.

If you want to get back together with your ex boyfriend/girlfriend, there is really no reason you shouldn't at least try no matter how hopeless you think it may be to get back together with your ex. Even if was your fault for the break up, there are ways of getting back together with your ex if you go about it the right way.

One of the biggest mistakes people make when trying to make up after a break up, is apologizing for everything that went wrong. And that's fine and needs to be done, but the apology should come after you are back together and everything is fine. That is when an apology holds the most merit and comes across as sincere.

The first thing you need to do is determine EXACTLY what the break up was over. An apology means nothing if you don't know what you are sorry for. This is going to require you to think back to the very moment of the break up and work your way back through all the events that led to that moment. It may have single incident that caused the break up, or a series of different events all rolled into one. Either way you need all the facts before you can do anything about it.

Now that you have gone back and replayed all the events that led to the moment of the break up, and have a crystal clear understanding of exactly what caused the break up. You are now armed with the most important information you need no matter how many articles you read or tapes you listen to or DVD's you listen to. Without that information all the articles ever writen is not going to help, because only you know that information.

We all wish we could go back to a point in our past and change what happen. Although it's not posible to change the past, when you have all the facts of the events that led to that point, you do have the ability to prevent it from happening in the future.

Now that you have a clear understanding of what the cause of the break up with your ex boyfriend/girlfriend. You can now sit down and talk with them about it. When your ex see's that you really do understand what went wrong, they are going to be much much more responsive to your attemps to make up. He/She now realizes that you care about the relationship enough to get to the heart of the matter. They are more willing to give it another try when they see that you know exactly what the problem, was and how to keep it from happening again