When Should You Call After The First Date?

After you have successfully planned your first date you should move on to the next step, which is preparing for the next date. Lets assume that you hit it off really well on the first date, and the both of you would like to see each other again. But how soon should you let her know that you enjoyed her company? How long should you wait before you call her to set up the second date?

This is a very common dating dilemma, and although there is no single rule, you can follow some of the advice found below.

Don't call your date on the same night. This is a big no-no. It will only lessen your date's anticipation and excitement, and as a result, lower her attraction level for you. When you make the call right away, women can get the impression that you like her very much, and therefore won't need to exert effort and energy in wondering whether you like her or not. Instead, she can focus her energy on wondering why she doesn't need to go out with you again, which is definitely something you should avoid.

You should not call on the same evening as your date to create some anticipation. However, if it can't be helped and you really have to call her that same night to find out how she feels about you, then at least use your creativity in coming up with the reason for your call. Were there any questions that you wanted to ask during your date but you forgot to ask? Then call your date to answer that question. Or, you could call her and comment on the dinner you shared or thank her for the amazing time you had with her.

However, if your date ended after 10 PM you should wait until the next day before calling. If you had a great time but your date has not responded to your phone calls, you should not call her again. You are only wasting your effort and time, which you could use on planning other first dates, so don't despair.

The best time you can call a woman to set up a second date is when you have plans for your next date. When you wait to call a woman, it makes her wonder why you haven't called her back, if you liked her or not, or if she said or did something wrong. This is good since this means she spends a lot of time wondering about you so much that she doesn't even have the time to think about whether she likes you or not.

And by the time you call, she'll be so happy to hear from you that she'll be doing her best to attract you and capture your interest. That first date spark will burn out and die if you wait too long to call.

But really, the best thing you can do is to prevent this sort of dilemma. As soon as you send your date off from your first date, and assuming both of you enjoyed your date, then set up your plans right then and there to avoid wondering when you'll call. Once you do this everything will be ready and you will only have to call to confirm your next date.