"Before we can feel compassion for anyone else, we must learn to feel compassion for ourselves."~Unknown Webster's Dictionary defines compassion as the sympathetic consciousness of other's distress. B...
"Before we can feel compassion for anyone else, we must learn to feel compassion for ourselves." ~Unknown
Webster's Dictionary defines compassion as the sympathetic consciousness of other's distress. But the first step toward having compassion for others is having compassion for yourself. It is the first step toward creating thriving relationships. It is the first step toward moving forward and growing your life.
This is because we can never truly give to another if we are empty, if we are tapped out, unnourished. Sure, we can push ourselves to give even then. But the giving won't be genuine. At the same time, giving to others while you are empty makes you feel resentful. This is why it is extremely important to always care for yourself first.
The last time you were sick, did you take care of yourself the way you would a sick child? Did you fix your favorite meal, sleep for hours on end, and take a day or two off from work? Or did you instead push yourself through the discomfort and low energy, all the time telling yourself you can't afford the time to be sick?
The last time you were sad, did you hug yourself, take a good long time to journal, and call a friend and pour your heart out? Or did you instead continue with your routine, pushing yourself even harder, telling yourself to get over it?
The last time you failed at something, did you look at all you accomplished even in the failure, acknowledge your sadness, and come up with a gentle, practical way to do better next time? Or did you instead berate yourself endlessly, telling yourself what you should have done differently and better, resolving to succeed through sheer willpower?
Self-compassion is the ability to be present to your shortcomings and vulnerability, your humanness, and still perceive yourself as the precious, lovable human being you are.
Practice compassion for yourself because...
· You are human, fragile, vulnerable and you need it as a traveler in a scorching desert needs a regular drink of cool, clear water to survive.
· Without it you will not have the strength to achieve your greatest aspirations, because you will need self-compassion to deal with failures along the way.
· You can be with and connect with others only to the degree that you can be with and connect with your own humanity.
Practice compassion for yourself today. Start this very moment. Meet your deepest need, take time for yourself, feel deeply your emotions. This is what you were born for and you will blossom as a result.
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