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Getting Life Balance ... At Last

There’s a lot of talk these days about life balance. For many of us, life is ... – too much work, too little family, too much sitting, too little ... too much sugar, too little green

There’s a lot of talk these days about life balance. For many of us, life is out-of-balance – too much work, too little family, too much sitting, too little exercise; too much sugar, too little green vegetables; too much stress, too little relaxation.

If you go to a “life balance coach,” you’ll probably be told to make a pie chart of your life, and to start removing things that are stressing you.

It may be suggested you change your job or career, change your partner, get more day care for the kids, hire a maid, get more exercise, eat more carbs, set priorities, rearrange your schedule, or move around other external things.

These are important, but it’s treating the symptom, not the cause. There’s a better way to get life balance that lasts longer and has a deeper impact on your life. It requires that you make some internal changes.

After all, you will never be able to remove every source of stress in your life, nor would you want to. Consider for instance that your husband is currently cause you stress. Maybe he’s just had a quadruple bypass or you’re worried he will. Maybe your wife has gotten a promotion and is very on edge lately and difficult to be with. There is stress in the relationship, but is this a reason to throw your partner out, like “toleration”? A person is not a “toleration,” and your primary relationships are not “obstacles.” And if you need an extreme example of this faulty line of reasoning
– consider how much stress that little ole newborn baby put into your life!

But not only can we not get rid of all our stress, we wouldn’t want to. It is widely reported in psychological literature that every organism (including we humans) seeks what’s called “equilibrium.”

Like Goldilocks and the Three Bears, we don’t want too much, and we don’t want too little. We want it just right! Subjects who have spent hours in a sensory deprivation tank are miserable, just like the adrenalin-junkie on the
corporate merry-go-round.

The ideal is to have just the right amount of stress, change and emotion in your life – not too much, not too little, and just right. And all the time. Ha!

What happens, then, to our “life balance”? We look inside, not outside. There is no way we are going to be able to control external things. Just when you settle down for a relaxing evening at home, the neighbor’s fire alarm goes off, and fire engines start arriving. Who knew?

What can bring you balance, is to develop your emotional intelligence, which includes such competencies as resilience. This bolsters your ability to handle the stress you can’t eliminate from you life, or wouldn’t want to. Also, by determining your values, and setting priorities
according to them, you can bring purpose into your life, which has a balancing effect in itself. How many times have we heard someone say, “They don’t pay me enough to do this job,” whereas there are people volunteering all the time at non-profit agencies undergoing similar stress who experience it positively, because it’s got meaning to them and what they want to be doing.

Emotional competency also includes Authenticity and Intentionality. Once you know who you are, you are far less likely to get involved in doing things you don’t want to that will turn into obstacles and needn’t have been taken on in the first place. In other words, you learn to say “no”.

Intentionality relieves a lot of stress. It’s saying what you mean and meaning what you say, and making it happen.

It’s similar to “If you don’t lie, you don’t have to remember anything.” If you know you will do what you say you will do, and others know this too, think of the paper work (and worry and accountability energy) that will be saved.

Lastly, by studying emotional intelligence with an EQ coach, you can eventually learn to modulate the emotions that are coming in. You may still want to be caretaker for your aged mother in your home, and you will experience it as far less
stressful, because you’ve learned to manage your emotions, hers, and the rest of the family’s.

Life balance is too important. Don’t stop with surface things. Don’t just try and rearrange external things. Work on your emotional intelligence so you experience your life and emotions in a more balanced way. Most individuals
recognize immediate results in their lifeFind Article, both at work and at home.

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