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Setting Boundaries in the Workplace

Setting boundaries is the single most common issue my clients deal with in their personal and professional lives.  Why do women find them so difficult to put in place?  And what can you do if a lack of boundaries is standing between you and the career success you desire?

Setting boundaries is the single most common issue my clients deal with in their personal and professional lives.  Why do women find them so difficult to put in place?  And what can you do if a lack of boundaries is standing between you and the career success you desire?

What are Boundaries?

Whether you’re working in the corporate world or running your own business, you need to develop and continually exercise strong boundaries.  Boundaries are the environment within which you operate – mentally, emotionally and physically.  They separate you from other people. 

Think of a boundary like a vase. The vase is holding a beautiful bouquet of flowers – these represent your mind, body and spirit.  If the vase were to break, the flowers would be scattered about, the water keeping them alive would flow over the table and on to the floor and very soon the blooms would wither. The same thing happens when you don’t have boundaries.  You feel overwhelmed, out of control, and scattered.  And, still worse, you make yourself vulnerable to being controlled and manipulated by others because you’re afraid to stand up for who you are. We need boundaries, “the vase,” in order to bloom, in fact, quite simply, to survive.

Why are Boundaries So Difficult to Set?

There are several reasons why women find boundary setting challenging:

1.  They don’t like confrontation.

2.  They’re socialized to be nice because “that’s the way they’re supposed to be,” and

3.  They’re afraid people won’t like them.

Women seem to experience more difficulty setting boundaries than men do.  We’re socialized in a way which makes it seem like we’re “bad” if we are too assertive.  My clients often comment that they’re afraid that if they say “no” or speak out, that their colleagues will not like them, or even heaven forbid that they will become the office B**** that everyone loves to hate.

Life is filled with confrontation of one sort or another. We must all learn to deal with it.  No one will agree with you 100% of the time.  The opposite is also true.  And, others will not always treat you with respect, no matter how much you may deserve it. Confrontation is where problems are aired and new lines are set. When you look at it from this perspective confrontation actually plays an important part in our growth as people.

Being nice and having boundaries are not mutually exclusive.  Setting boundaries does not mean that you’re bad or wrong.  Instead, it means you value and respect yourself. You need to define what is acceptable in terms of how others will treat you.  So what is the best way to move into your power by setting boundaries?  Here are seven tips to help you get started.

Build Better Boundaries:  7 Success Tips

1.  Model success.  Think about someone you really admire.  I’m sure he or she has strong boundaries.  While you might sometimes find it somewhat annoying, that’s probably the single most important reason you respect them as you do.  How do they manage their boundaries?  Observe their behavior – then try modeling it. 

2.  Think first, act later.  What’s important to you?  How do you want others to treat you?  Spend some quiet time thinking things thru before you decide to let others know how you feel.  This is a much better approach than suddenly deciding in the middle of a heated argument, that you’re “just not going to take it anymore”, often a very expensive mistake. Don’t risk damaging your career, business, or personal relationships by acting on impulse.

3.  Teach others how to treat you.  Every day, you’re training people how you want them to treat you, whether you know it or not.  By not speaking up, by not informing people about how you wish to be treated, you are confirming that this behavior is completely acceptable in your world

4.  Management by following up.  This strategy is especially important if you’re working with others to whom you’ve delegated tasks.  Write down the deliverables, when they were committed to, and their expected completion dates.  Follow up daily by phone or in person to make sure that others are working towards completing things according to plan.  Regular and focused follow-up reminds others of your expectations.

5.  Say “No” and tell them why.  When you say “no” to someone, offer a reason.  “No,” in and of itself, can come across as harsh and abrupt.  Lighten up your communication by extending the conversation with some details.  “No, I’m so sorry, but I have a lot of commitments right now and taking on this project – would be too much at this time.”

 

6.  Say, “Yes, but …”.  When faced with the inevitable last minute request, typically delivered by those who live in chaos and overwhelm, make sure you’re even stronger with your boundaries.  If you can handle the task, say “yes” – but with the provision that you’ll do it when and only when you’re completed with working on your current projects. 

7.  Under-promise and over-deliver.  When you’re asked to do something, tell them that things will take a little longer than you expect.  This way, if something does come up you’ll still be able to deliver on time.  And, if everything proceeds as planned, then you’ll finish early and they’ll be pleasantly surprised.  Setting boundaries and setting expectations in the minds of others go hand-in-hand.

Boundaries and Your Success

In summary, boundaries are critically important to your success in life, both personally and professionally.  They define who you are and who you are not.  They empower you to value and respect yourself.  And, when you doArticle Submission, others will as well. It all starts with you.  Take on the challenge – I guarantee you that the rewards will be well worth it.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR


Career coach Christine Jackson, CPC, ACC specializes in working with women in IT and communications who want to take charge of their lives and careers. From career planning to promotions, from time management to transition strategies, Christine empowers her clients to design and develop their careers on their own terms.

Known for her straightforward coaching style and her ability to focus quickly on key issues, Christine has attracted a global client following representing a variety of industries. To read more about her, or to subscribe to her career coaching tips, visit The IT Girls Coach



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