Connecting And Counseling: Signs Your Ex Wants You Back Even After A Painful Breakup

Sometimes in the heat of the moment, couples decide to go their separate ways and ask for a separation.  This is not really a divorce but a step in between the marriage and divorce which allows for the couple to reassess the relationship and decide whether they want to work at the marriage or go their separate ways.

Once the couple is in the midst of this separation they may begin to have second thoughts about being apart from one another.  Therefore, they begin to reassess the situation and decide to begin to work at the relationship once again.

Subsequently, if an individual’s ex is in this situation and wants to work at the marriage once again without going through a divorce, there are certain signals to watch for.  One of the specific signs that your ex wants you back is that they begin to reach out and call the other marital partner.  In addition, another sign your ex wants you back is that they begin to work on those areas that began to divide the marriage.

Connecting

One of the sure fire signs that your ex wants you back is that they begin to reach out to the marital partner.  Generally, this occurs through phone calls, visits, surprise appearances at lunch time, etc.

This is a signs that your ex wants you back because normally if the marriage partner is mad or doesn't want anything to do with the other individual they will stay away.  A reconnecting indicates a wanting to communicate, reach out or softening of one's position in wanting to stay at a distance.

Counseling

Another strong indicator or sign your ex wants you back is the suggestion of going to counseling together or going to counseling alone.  This is a strong indicator for a number of reasons.

First of all, it sends a strong message that the individual feels that the marriage is worth pouring some time and financial resources into it.  In addition, it recognizes that the marriage has some difficulties and that by going to a counselor some of those difficulties can be resolved.  This is a major step towards healing when one or both members of the marriage acknowledge that there are difficulties.

Secondly, by seeking out the help of a counselor, the individual or couple affirms that they wish to invest all of their resources into making the marriage work.  In particular, this investment of seeing a counselor includes the investment of time and money.  Therefore, the investment of these resources can provide a return of a stronger and healthier marriage.