Daryl Campbell

Dating Tip for Men: The Fine Line between Confidence and Arrogance

If you are not careful on a date you can easily find yourself leaving cool guy highway and turning onto conceited jerk lane. As far as some women are concerned, the trip is not really that far.  

You've been going out with this woman for awhile and it's obvious she really likes you. That's all well and good but it doesn't mean she like everything about you.

It doesn't mean you are a bad person as a matter of fact you are a pretty good guy if you do say so yourself. And that's the problem.

Very few if any women are interested in a guy who's afraid of his own shadow. Women like a man who feels good about himself as well as the environment around him. He's comfortable with his place in the world and it shows. 

But it is all too easy in many instances for that self confidence to stray into arrogance territory.  How can you tell when it's gone too far?

1. Are You Listening?
 
Do you have a tendency to tune out your date? Yes some women are experts in conversation domination so it's not uncommon for the mind to stray from time to time. But arrogance you are never really listen. You might get bits and pieces of what your date is saying but more than anything you are just waiting for a lull so you can make your point irregardless of what she was talking about.  Usually you don't even wait for that pause. You just cut straight thru like a runaway Mack truck.    

2. Are You Always Right?

You just can't stand to lose an argument. Every discussion becomes a debate and you must win it at all cost. This means if you have to trash your date or point out repeatedly in no uncertain terms where and why they went wrong, then you do not have a problem with that. And what about the post debate wrap up? You are so wrapped up in your victory that you could care less that you have hurt her feelings. So what right? She should not have tangled with you on that particular subject. Of course with the arrogant male a particular subject turns into every subject. 
 
3. Are You Always Building?

We all have goals we want to accomplish and dreams that we want to become reality. However when you are on a date, it's amazing how the conversation always seems to get back to you. Your goals, your job, your possessions, your status etc, etc.  When your date decides to share some of her ambitions either you are not listening or you dismiss them (another sign of arrogance) so the spotlight can quickly get back to you.

Women not only like a confident man but respect him. It's a good indicator as to whether they want to get to know you better. It also tells them that you are comfortable and open as to what they have to offer. You relish their input as equal to your own and have no problem learning from them. With arrogance there is only room for one person in the relationship and it's not her.  

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