Dealing with a relationship breakup is a very tough thing to over come. But it is possible to do and get your ex back.
It might be hard to believe but taking your time is probably the best way for dealing with a relationship breakup. There are other things that you can do, but the old saying - time heals all wounds - is true. Unfortunately, if you've been together for many years it can take even more than a year to get over the break up. But like I said, there are steps you can take to mitigate the pain and take your focus away from it.
Do new things that interest you and that you and your ex didn't do. Doing something creative or spiritual can give balance to your life. When holidays and birthdays come around, create new traditions to replace the old ones you may have had with your ex.
Make a schedule for your days. Give yourself things to accomplish. After a break up it's easy to develop a feeling of low self-worth. By getting things done, you can work at building your self-worth. Also, this takes the focus off your relationship.
You need closure. Box up reminders of your relationship and put them away. Stop having contact with your ex--ongoing contact can derail any of the progress you've made at closure. Also, meeting with your ex can deflate your self-esteem. This can get you frustrated because you'll feel like you can't move on by continuing to seem them.
Seek out supportive friends and family, you need to know that you are loved and that people care about you. It might be difficult to get together with others and discuss your feelings, but it will help to be around people who do care about you.
