If You Want Her Back, You Can Get Her Back!
Isn't it a curiosity that there are guys who get dumped and don't seem
to get upset or do too much of anything about it, and yet their girls
come back to them in a couple of weeks? Well, your time for feeling
mournful and moping around, feeling sorry for yourself, is over. What
your friends did was make a plan based on the following secrets, and
then they simply applied the plan. She will be knocking at your door
and ready to give all.
Learn and follow these pointers:
1. Give her room to breathe - and think.
People reach more logical judgments when they're further removed, by time or distance, from the thing they're considering. Not only does this trait appear more strongly in women, there's scientific support for the observation: women's right brain is more active than mens', and it's the right brain that's responsible for the emotion-based thinking.
Over time, thought processes are shifted from the emotional to the logical - that is, from right to left. You want that to happen, but if she has contact with you during that time, it'll keep her thoughts of you in the right brain. This might take as much as a month or so, but no less than two weeks. This is a bit challenging. You don't want to go too long without contacting her, or she may start resenting you for ignoring her completely. On the other hand, you want to let her logical thinking take over, so that she can start wondering whether or not she made a mistake in breaking up with you.
2. She dumped you - her friends didn't.
Just because she walked out on you doesn't mean you have to walk out on her friends who've become your friends! Giving up these friendships would be abandoning one of the most valuable weapons you have in the battle to win her back!
Her friends truly are your ambassadors, and you must be at the peak of your diplomatic skills. Remember, a diplomat is never negative, and neither should you be. When you talk with them, don't spend all your time talking about her, or they'll think you're just moping. But in the conversation, you can mention things that, over time, will weave a pattern, and that pattern will unmistakably say that the relationship you had with her was absolutely outstanding. There's no question that this information will get back to her. The reports from her friends will make her realize the depth of your love for her. It may even happen that her friends will scold her for walking out on such a loving man!
3. Remind her that you too have a life
Nothing, really, is as complex as love. It has many components, and one of the most puzzling, and potentially dangerous, is jealousy. Properly managed, though, you can manipulate a woman's jealousy to make her want you back. She won't get jealous if she wasn't in love with you, however. If that's the case, trying to make her jealous not only won't work, it may wind up making you look foolish - or worse.
Many plans of attack can be taken to make her jealous. An initial approach to making her jealous could include visiting nightspots she likes to frequent, and dancing and flirting with the women there. It isn't necessary for her to see you directly - if her friends see you out and about and having a good time with other women, you can be sure that reports will be made to her quickly! Of course, a more direct approach, although one which carries a higher degree of potential emotional harm, would be to carry on this behavior with her friends themselves. You need to exercise caution here, though - unless handled properly, it could harm her friendships, which could jeopardize your chances with her. Jealousy will start to grow in her from the moment she becomes aware that you're carrying on with other women.
If you make her jealous, she'll want to protect her feelings for you, which are endangered by the presence of the other women. Now in addition to feeling jealous because you're carrying on with other women, she's also embarrassed because her friends are very aware of all that's going on. What better way to set things right than to get back together with you? Now you're ideally situated to take her back on your terms. Above all, though, it's crucial that she be made to feel like the planet's best-loved woman when you make up - and remember that with those other women, you were only flirting.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Andrew Hunter enjoys helping men deal with the conflicts and challenges they experience in relating with women and helping them form successful relationships.
If you found this article helpful and would like to learn more ways to improve your relationship with your ex girlfriend, check out Getting Back Your Ex Girlfriend and How to Win Back Your Girlfriend.