Should a Woman Call a Man When Dating?

Women write to me often asking me all those calling related questions in all possible variations. First of all, many women want to know why men do not call after the first date. I understand that by first date women mean a date that occurred after initial introduction via an online dating site. That is the question that tortures women the most. Meeting a man online is already much different from meeting someone via traditional channels, such as friends' introductions, meeting at a bar or a restaurant, or through work. When you meet a man via traditional channels, you can pretty much say with assurance that after the first date he'll call you unless some sort of disaster happens on your first date. But when you meet a man on a dating site, chances are the first in-person impression will be made when you actually meet on a date.

Most women who find themselves attracted to a man on a first date get blindsided by the attraction toward the man. This hampers a woman's ability to objectively evaluate a man's interest. Many times a woman does not see that while the date went great, there is lack of physical chemistry on the man's part, or lack of interest in pursuing a relationship for reasons other than lack of chemistry.

Some men, while feeling attracted to a woman can find significant differences in the lifestyle or interests. While physical chemistry is great, many times men will opt out of pursuing a woman because of those differences. On the other hand, when a woman and a man seem to have much in common, there is no chemistry between the two.

The question about whether a man is going to call you or not is simple to answer. Do not call him and you'll find out.

But what if you really like the man you met for the first time and you really want to call him. How to handle calls, e-mails, text messaging and instant messaging a man you would like to date? If all else fails, there are simple strategies that you can exercise in order to start a relationship with a man you really like. There is only so much you can do, and you need to make sure you don't overdo. By overdoing you are not getting anywhere. In fact, a potential dating relationship may fail before it even starts.

I recently posted a very long article about calling men and generally handling communications with a man you date here. It deals with all different aspects of calling and otherwise interacting with men in a dating relationship, beginning with the first date, to a casual dating relationship, to a committed relationship.

I certainly hope that you will utilize the tactics to your advantage and build a healthy relationship with your man by putting that information to work.