Some words of wisdom about growing up

Becoming an adult does not just mean physically aging; it hopefully means mentally and spiritually maturing!  Below are two points that come from pages 4 and 5 of David Richo’s 1991 book entitled How to be an Adult.  Each point is meant to help you move past any struggles or mental blocks you are having into wholeness. 

1.      The first point is the false impression you may have that you are a “solid identity separate from everything else around…”.  We start developing an us vs. them mentality.  This can create conflict because we are trying to make other people conform to our perspective.

Instead of this, I suggest seeing yourself as part of community.  Banish any ideas of winning or beating anybody.  We should focus on what unites us and what we can learn from their perspective.

2.      The second point focus on our tenancy to think that “There is something out there that can fulfill my longing and answer my needs, and this something can last forever”.  Richo’s talks about how bliss is not a “commodity that can be gained, lost, found, won, or possessed.”  If you are waiting for a day or an event or a relationship that is somehow going to lessen the trials of adulthood or launch you into greater success - don’t!  This only leads to frustration and a feeling that you are not powerful enough to enact change in your life.

In my eyes, you are strong enough to modify and change your life a little every day.  This is not glamorous or exciting.  Period.  The good news is that trying to live your bliss everyday instead of waiting for it to appear will really make you happier!!  And like I always say, happy confident people like happy confident people!!!

Go out there, be an adult, and make “Meet Me For Lunch” proud!  Look for more from Richo’s book in the future…