Why Being Romantic Will Never Attract Women

May 22
21:34

2007

Scott J. Patterson

Scott J. Patterson

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If you act like a romantic guy, you won' attract women. Find out why…

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Are you destroying your chances with women without even knowing it?

Well,Why Being Romantic Will Never Attract Women Articles that's what you're doing if you meet a woman and immediately start telling her "lovey-dovey" romantic things!

One of the quickest ways to repulse a woman is to instantly start doing romantic things with her.  So if you're talking to a woman within the first five minutes and you start thinking of spending the next 50+ years with her, then you need to pay close attention to this article.

Often I receive emails from my list subscribers who ask for help with their online dating skills.  Now I have to be honest here, I cringe when I take a look at a lot of their dating profiles.  That's because many guys fill their descriptions with romantic talk and say they like to "take long walks on the beach"!

So what kind of responses do these guys get from women?

NONE!

Yes, you heard me.  The guys who constantly talk about wanting to find true love, almost never come close to attracting woman.  Now I know it seems counterintuitive, but a woman don't want immediate romance from a guy.  Instead, she's looking for a guy who provides excitement and sexual tension.  After a few dates, if this guy sparks her interest, THEN she wants romance.

I know it seems illogical, but by being romantic RIGHT away you're actually increasing your chances of rejection.  A woman doesn't want a wussy guy who automatically professes his love for her.  Instead she wants a confident guy who is not always seeking approval from her.

So let me ask you something.  Do you display any of these traits:

  • Do you plan out romantic evenings without knowing a woman?
  • Are you secretly writing poems or songs for women who you barely know?
  • Have you already planned out the perfect engagement even though you're not dating any woman?
  • Do you fill your online dating profile with the perfect romantic things you'll do for a woman?

Now the reason I ask these questions is because you might be displaying some qualities which do more to REPULSE a woman instead of attracting her.  If you're acting in a super romantic way when your first meet a woman, then you're NOT displaying the qualities which women find attractive.

Now if you're a romantic guy deep down, have no fear.  There is nothing wrong with a bit of romance and being chivalrous with a woman.  But these things should be done once you've developed a pattern of dating.  After getting to know a woman, then you should start to do romantic things.

So what's the solution?

Well it's simple…

When you meet a woman, you should focus on creating attraction instead of romance.  It's about focusing on showing a confident AND sexual personality, rather then being a overly romantic guy.

You can do this be reframing conversations and making women attracted to you.  Then once you've developed the pattern of dating a woman you can then focus on being a romantic guy.

Always remember this- Women love romance.  But they only like it's developed over a period of dating

If you're able to show an interesting personality, THEN switch over to being romantic, you'll be able to have both things in your life – romance and attraction!