Why Doesn't He Love Me Anymore? Understand A Sudden Break Up (3 Insight Into A Man's Heart)

Do you need help understanding a sudden break up? Did he say I love you one day and then want out the next day? Are you left feeling confused, empty and in pain wondering "Why doesn't he love me anymore?"

This article aims to share some insights into a man's heart and mind. Read on to see whether the man you love is simply heartless, or is something else really going on...

Insight #1: Love Doesn't Vanish Overnight.

Instinctively, we all know this to be true. It is highly unlikely that a strong feeling like love can disappear overnight. Hence, you first need to understand and accept that it took time for your ex's feelings to change.

Over time, there were probably things that you did that chipped away at his loving feelings for you. For example: - You didn't appreciate something he did for you - You ridiculed him: his thoughts, dressing, anything important to him - You made him feel un-important or useless - etc...

It's the little things left unsaid that create unhappiness and resentment, until he doesn't feel happy when he thinks about you anymore.

But why didn't he say anything? This leads us to the next insight I want to share with you...

Insight #2: Men are afraid to share their feelings.

The truth is, men aren't extremely in touch with their feelings... and they are even more clueless about how to express their feelings.

In fact, what scares men most about sharing their true feelings, is that the woman they love, will react in a strongly negative way to what they've just said. This scares them because they are at a loss at how to handle emotions in general, and this makes them feel like a failure.

So, instead of facing a long conversation about his feelings, a man would rather keep quiet and not say anything. He feels it's safer this way.

Insight #3: Men speak with their actions.

We all communicate in different ways. Women tend to talk more while men will use their actions more. Hence, don't be too discouraged by what your ex has said.

Many of us don't know how to accurately convey what we want to say. A more accurate explanation of what your ex lover said is "I don't feel the same way about you, as I did when we first started going out."

Can you see how or why he might have just used the words "I don't love you anymore" instead? It was easier and the only way he knew how to express his own (foreign) feelings.

I suggest you do your best to ignore his words for now and focus on how he behaves when he's with you instead.