Recently the scientists at Gellap's Institute attempted to discover the innate qualities of a successful person. They conducted an extensive analysis of life positions and character features of 1500 famous people taken at random from the reference book “Who is Who in America”.
Before you start complaining that everything was against you this time again, it is better to analyze your own preparation and effort taken. Probably we should confess that we are capable of much more. Ask yourself if you have actually done your best - and be honest in admitting your slips and shortcomings. Decide for yourself that you are not going to repeat the mistakes, forgive yourself and proceed. You don’t need to blame anyone even yourself. The one, who concentrates on self-accusations, indicts others or the circumstances often cannot restore and risks turning into a loser. We can experience a lot of failures for a long time, but it won’t be a final outcome. Those who flunk are not losers unless they let despair and self-pity inhibit their progress.
Keep on telling yourself that all the events approach you to your aim even if temporary difficulties separate you from it. Look for the good in everything. The lessons we take from our failures make success possible. Treat every obstacle as a traffic sign” Stop, better take this way”. Many people have too high and unreal standards of success called maximization. In their book “Just Enough: Tools for Creating Success in Your Work and Life “ (you can find the excerpts from it at http://hbswk.hbs.edu/item.jhtml?id=3966&t=moral_leadership). Laura Nash and Howard Stevenson explain that “maximization is any form of going for the extreme—genius intelligence, superhuman effort, the best house, the unique lifestyle, and the most profit possible. Pick up any magazine and you can find a glamorized message of "making it" that assumes not only extreme performance but maximized reward: great wealth, drop dead attractiveness, all the attention, and possible omnipotence.” Evidently such people will never find harmony in themselves as they are bound to be constantly dissatisfied with what they have. Another problem of such “high achievers” is that they come to think that they fail because of somebody or something. They believe that this very person or situation did not let them achieve their aim. Have you ever had such thoughts?
But, let’s be objective we will hardly ever learn something without making mistakes. Do you remember your first essay thesis statement at university? You took great pains to write it and many drafts had been thrown away before you produced the final version. It proves once again that failure is an invitation to a new attempt.
Train your Memory
Memory is a very important tool that needs to be cherished. When in the middle of an intellectual task your mind suddenly goes blank, that is a signal to take some action. This article provides you with necessary information on how to train your memory.
Power of The Word
Words possess magic power over us. Words of order, words of a sentence, words you use in your essay. They make all the difference in our life. That is why we should devote enough attention to the words we say to each other. Being polite, saying compliments to surrounding people gives fruit in the form of constructive and pleasant interaction with others.
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All people are born with a definite purpose, a definite mission to fulfill on the Earth. We are to follow our calling, but very often people face the problem of not knowing what they want to do or of being afraid of following their calling, due to some reasons. Why does this happen? And what should we think of when making crucial decisions in our life?
