Don't Use Dirty Divorce Tricks

If you are forced to divorce, the experience can leave you with feelings of loss, of crushed dreams, of vulnerability or you just might want to punch your ex's lights out! The bombardment of all these emotions won't serve you well while you're divorcing. They might even weaken you.

If you feel weakened, you could fall prey to the dirty divorce tricks syndrome used by some attorneys at the behest of their clients who might also feel vindictive. And you could think that dirty divorce tricks is okay to use yourself. I don't think so. Dirty pool has a way of hitting you where you are weakest.

You need a good attorney yourself. When you are emotionally bruised, you become subjective and won't be able to see what's being served up to you due to lack of objectivity. You need a support team on your side who can remain objective and serve your best interests and more importantly, serve the interest of your children. So hire a good divorce attorney who has a good reputation for fairness and good standing for his clients.

There are many articles in circulation that will tell you what those tricks are. Please go find and read those articles on the internet and inform yourself of some of the things that could happen. This article is not about that. This article is about your vulnerability and becoming stronger for yourself and your children.

When you are vulnerable and under emotional duress, your ex may try to take advantage of you. It's wise to assemble a strong team to back you up and look out for your interests. I don't mean a girlfriend who agrees with you. I'm talking about a mentor who can guide you through these vulnerable times so that you are not taken advantage of. It's in your best interest to have as your support person someone who's lived more years than you, who cares about you, and who can show you an objective manner of viewing things so you don't step on the land mines.

There are things that you deserve according to the law. Your divorce attorney will know what they are. Do a bit of internet research so you are armed with the facts of what your rights are. Your attorney sees you as one of many clients and he or she is human. They might miss a detail. If you know what those details about your entitlements are, you can ask your attorney "What about this?" as a reminder to be sure nothing that you deserve by law is missed. Being informed is being armed.

When you have court documents that specify what the agreements are to be, stick with them. You definitely suffer from vulnerability if you believe your ex who offers you sweet deals that are not down on paper. " If he's willing to do x, let him put it into the court documents. Don't deviate from what the court has decreed.

If you have a tendency toward naïveté, work to correct this. The only way to not be naïve is to be informed. Learn all you can about the subject at hand. Consult with your Divorce attorney. Don't agree to anything with your ex without this consult, particularly if you're naïve. You need the assistance of your divorce attorney's protection until you grow stronger yourself. If you've suffered emotional trauma that has left you feeling vulnerable and vindictive - and you now feel as if resorting to dirty divorce tricks is justified - you will need a strong skill set, a lot of knowledge, professional support but mainly, internal courage to face your ex down and get what you deserve by law. Don't become a divorce horror story statistic.