Post Divorce Lawyer Healing Tips

When a marriage ends, the divorce lawyer will be the professional to tie up all the loose legal knots. Custody, property division, name changes, alimony and more will be accomplished by an expert legal representative who focuses on dissolutions. Financial and emotional worlds can be turned upside down when this fork-in-the-road of life occurs. No one walks down the aisle thinking their union won’t last. Unfortunately half of the brides and grooms will end up putting a call into an attorney, sooner or later. If a spouse falls into the “split” half of the equation, they will have to go through a painful adjustment. Here are some tips for healing from the upheaval.

- Realize that the pain won’t last: A broken heart can be painful, indeed. Even if a husband or wife was the one who called it quits, it hurts and there will be a transition period. Estimates for healing this pain vary from a couple of years to a bit longer. The longer the marriage, the longer it will likely take to adjust to being single. The person who was dumped will probably suffer for a lengthier time.

- Get support: Having emotional support during this time is crucial. Friends, family members or a support group may help substantially. Joining a support group may be the best idea, in order to give friends and family a break once in a while. They may love you, but no one wants to be the sole burden carrier of their grieving loved one. It’s helpful to bounce ideas off others in the same boat. Kindred souls are boons in the healing process.

- Spiritual enhancements: Whether a person is Christian, Jewish, Buddhist or an atheist, having some sort of spiritual component in one’s life is very helpful during crisis points. Praying, attending church, temple or sangha may help those involved in organized religions. Meditating, taking long walks in nature or practicing gratitude for the things that ARE working are all spiritually related life enhancements. Think “big picture.”

- Frugality is in vogue: Divorce usually lands both spouses in a more precarious financial situation. Learning methods for tightening the budget will help each ex-spouse navigate a narrower financial river. Luckily, frugality is in style right now and can even be considered “cool.” Re-use, recycle, and repair are politically correct buzzwords in our new economy. Gorgeous wardrobes can be picked up for a song at thrift shops. Beans and rice can be tastily prepared.

- Journal Writing: Writing thoughts down in a journal is a great coping tool. It doesn’t have to be anything that will ever go public. Just a venting rant will do. Another idea is to keep a “Leaving My Marriage” journal. Every time you read something or hear something that affirms why the union ended, write it down or clip the quote to paste into your scrapbook/journal. It’s easy to wallow in sorrow if you get a case of the “if only I’d done…” blues. At times like this, whipping out your scrapbook for a dose of reality reminders will help get you through.

Severing a union with a divorce lawyer can be necessary but it is also painful. Taking steps to heal from it will get everyone through the transition.