Many of us make a toast to health
and happiness in the New Year. One great way to improve your health in 2011 is
to reduce stress. Here are three ways to de-stress your life and relationship this
When you are feeling stressed or
overwhelmed, tell your partner. Let them know the source of your stress: Is it
work? The kids? Financial worries? Health issues? You? (Yes, you read that
correctly – you may be the source of your partner’s stress.) Many times we
assume our partner knows we are stressed. Don’t assume this – they may just
think you are tired or in a bad mood.
Just communicating and talking about the stress (and stressors) in your life
will have a way of de-stressing you. Having someone listen to you and knowing
you are not alone during stressful moments not only makes the stress in your
life feel less burdensome, it also brings you emotionally closer to your
partner. Sharing stressful times with your partner strengthens the emotional
bond and connection you feel with each other.
So don’t go it alone. Communicate
with your partner about the stress you are feeling and gain their invaluable
2. How we PERCEIVE stress impacts how we
Remember, everybody has stress in
their lives – every single person. It is totally unrealistic (and quite insane)
to think we can eliminate it from our lives. But we can control how it affects
us. If we do not exert some control over the stress in our lives, the stress
will control us. This is truly the kiss of death for our sanity.
All stressors do not have equal weight and equal value. For example, the stress
related to a minor fender bender is no way near equal to the stress related to
losing your job. You might laugh at this point and think it’s obvious, but many
people react to all stressors as if they are the same. They are not! So keep
your stressors in perspective of your entire life. Remember all the things you
have to be grateful and thankful for. If you are alive – and healthy – no one
stressor should be perceived as the end of the world!
3. Breathe deeply and be aware of what
you are feeling.
When we become stressed we tend
to hold our breath. This creates an unhealthy physiological reaction to stress
and jams up all our emotional feelings and responses.
So take a moment and breathe deeply, in and out. This will help center you and
get you in touch with what you are feeling; otherwise you will just feel
totally overwhelmed. Feeling overwhelmed negatively impacts your ability to
recognize and understand your emotions, leaving you virtually paralyzed to
effectively deal with your stressful situation. Yoga and meditation are two
great ways to learn breathing techniques to help you center your mind and body
and get “grounded.”
Since we can’t avoid stress in
our lives, these tips will help you learn how to handle it effectively so 2011
is indeed a year of health and happiness.
During the past 25 years, renowned relationship expert Dr. Patty Ann Tublin has helped hundreds of people rekindle romance and reignite passion in their relationships. The solutions in her Relationship Toolbox™ help couples re-build romance so intimacy inside and outside the bedroom can flourish. Through her successful 25-year marriage and her experience of raising 4 children, Dr. Patty Ann has earned an international reputation for saving relationships. To reignite your flames of passion, visit her site at www.drpattyann.com.