Attitude

Jun 8
16:57

2007

Jacqueline Pigdon

Jacqueline Pigdon

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'There is nothing you can not be. There is nothing you can not do. There is nothing you can not have...'

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Many people when talking about attitude make a statement like 'There is nothing you can not be. There is nothing you can not do. There is nothing you can not have!'

They use positive and transitional words like Self-Confidence,Attitude Articles Motivation, Discovery and Goal Focused. In my mind the words that are often missed out that actually make the above words come true are Reality, Perception, Realisation and Responsibility.

Everyone knows that in REALITY everyone cannot possibly have everything. But if the statement is true then everyone would be rich, have no bills, have lots of holidays and ultimately be busy in doing nothing!

This statement can be true though - It’s all about PERCEPTION. If one perceives that goals orientated to material gain is then achieving, then this goal is near impossible for greed will come into play since greed can never be satisfied. But if one perceives that happiness is the goal then everyone can make everything happen in order to attain that happiness – the result of which being at peace.

Once we can see this then everything is easy. Ah the REALISATION of it all. Many people do see this – the path to peace – but choose the way of material gain for it brings instant success. This is not wrong for everyone likes to have the nice things in life and have a life which is stress free & peaceful. But the rich are just as unsatisfied as everyone else, the elite sportsman are just as frustrated as everyone else and the great leaders are just as vulnerable to make the wrong decision as everyone else.

Thus in the end it is our own RESPONSIBILITY in choosing the path we decide based on the goals we want. Make the goals attainable then the goals can be reached – if goals are to be reached then we are happy. This is the attitude everyone should have.

Attitude in a certain context denotes a state of mind, mood, viewpoint, outlook, or belief. It expresses its results and effects through dynamic, progressive social movements that change conditions, events and the course of life in positive, life-sustaining directions.

To us that can mean lots of things or nothing at all.

So lets think about being positive and choosing your attitude…

Being positive can be a state of being, your state of being determines the choices you make, your choices determine your actions, and your actions produce your results.

Depending on your positive or negative state you will make vastly different choices.

For example you’re sitting on the couch one sunny Saturday afternoon in a positive mood wondering what you should do for the afternoon. The phone rings and a friend invites themselves over for coffee and a chat. You accept the invitation and have a wonderful afternoon together.

But if you were in a negative state then when the phone rings, you may not have answered it at all.

We make many choices everyday. When you choose to be in a positive frame of mind you are more open and willing to do things, are happy and are more likely to succeed. Being in a negative state, you withdraw and block your vision and you are guaranteed to fail.

Simple choices present themselves each morning for example, each morning one can say ‘I am going to have a fantastic day today’ and choose to be in this state or ‘allow negativity to set in and be doom and gloom’. It’s your choice.

However easier said than done? Yeah, so where does this positive attitude come from?

It comes from your inner belief based on realistic and achievable goals. Your belief comes from planning and planning comes from your vision and goal setting. The positive attitude thus comes in having realistic, achievable and measurable goals teamed with an inner belief that you ‘know’ you can achieve this or these things.

So can you do anything and have everything? I believe so but it depends on your Perception, and what you want!

For me attitude is based on one’s perception on what your path is in attaining your goal.

For if my goal is material based then those who do not share the same goal will believe I have then wrong attitude (I too will believe they have a negative attitude in me achieving what I want).

But those who share the same goal and are envious will have a very negative attitude towards me for they want to (and can not) reach the same goal.

So what is the difference then between a positive & negative attitude?

Instead of trying to find the answer to this in terms of psychology, behaviour and culture, one can look at it in a more simplistic view.

If my reality is that I can’t sing then dreams of winning Australian Idol, being a pop singer and singing in the Sydney Opera House are totally unrealistic. If I were gifted with such a talent then maybe I could chase this dream. But if I’m not and I like singing then a goal of singing in my local theatre group is more realistic and thus achievable.

All of us affect, in one way or another, the people around us. People sense our aura and are thus affected by our state. It happens instinctively and on a subconscious level.

People react/act differently to a person who is full of energy to that of a person who constantly moans. This difference can be seen when the two people are talking about the same thing.

For example lets take the problem of not getting a promotion at work. The person full of energy will ‘shun the establishment’ then find a way of gaining more skills to help their career at the same company or  learn the skills to move on to a company which provides better progression.

The person who moans will also ‘shun the establishment’ but then do nothing but constantly moan and complain through out their continued service at that company.

So attitude plays a part in how one over comes obstacles as well as how one enjoys ones success.

So how do I get this attitude?

·          Listen to your self-talk and choose your state

·          Work out what your realistic and achievable goals are and make plan

·          Believe in yourself and your abilities

·          Act with confidence

·          Contain your reactions

·          Appreciate what you have, if you’re not happy with what you see do something about it, change and take action!

·          Surround yourself with positive people!

If you do this after a while you will start to gain much more value in your life by being positive and achieving realistic and achievable goals that you won’t want to have anything to do with negativity again!

If my reality is focused and my perception of my goals are clear I can easily see where I want to and can attain happiness, thus go forth with a positive attitude. With this realisation in mind I simply take it on myself to do what needs to be done in order to achieve my goal.

This for me is Attitude - striving to meet attainable goals that are in the benefit of not only myself but everyone around me.

Trying to achieve something that I was always going to fail creates negativity in me and thus I adversely affect those around me.