We aren't born that way nor do we mean to be that way, but it can often come about because of our past experiences, what someone may have told us, what we've read in the papers… and then without realising, we develop these inner enemies. How many of them can you identify with?
(1) The Confused Indecision-maker You will often hear the Confused Indecision-Maker complaining about the way things are, and how much better it would be if things were different. It's often "someone else's" fault too. But if you stopped them and asked, "What do you want then?" they usually find it hard to give you an answer. They know what they don't want, but they don't know what they do want. As a result, they don't make decisions that will take them closer to what they want, nor do they recognise it when what they want is staring them between the eyes.
(2) The Historian There are three aspects to the Historian. The first is that historians think that because it hasn't happened in the past or that they haven't made it happen in the past, that it won't happen in the future. The second aspect is that they keep on thinking with the same mindset as in the past, and so never begin to see things with a new perspective or come up with new ideas. And the third is that they are continually bemoaning how wonderful things were in "the good old days" that they fail to notice what's good about today.
(3) The Doubting Thomas One of the favourite utterances of the Doubting Thomas is, "See! I told you so!" The Doubting Thomas is the person who either thinks that it can't be done or that they can't do it. So they don't put any effort into getting what they want, and then, when it doesn't happen, they get to be right! At other times, the Doubting Thomas may well put effort into getting what they want, but then spend their time worrying about it and wondering if it will ever happen. This causes them to feel stressed and tired.
(4) The Scaredy Cat Part of the "price" for achieving our goals is to move outside of our comfort zone and to do some new things that we may not have undertaken before. The reward is that this helps us to grow as a person. It takes us to new heights, while also enabling us to experience adventure and fun. The Scaredy Cat though, will prefer to stand on the sidelines, watching others do what they do and marvel at how courageous and clever other people are. Often, Scaredy Cats are great at cheering others on, and they may "excuse" themselves for not venturing out of their comfort zones by being "modest". But deep down, they may secretly wish that they were brave enough themselves too… if only they could overcome their fear of failure.
(5) The Scatterbrain "Roll up, roll up! This is the latest and the greatest!" So the Scattergun diverts their attention yet again to the latest good idea and that becomes their new goal. The trouble is that they haven't allowed sufficient time for their earlier ideas to germinate and to take root, not to mention taking appropriate action, before they are off again, chasing the next rainbow.
So, be willing to meet your enemies face to face! Greet them! Thank them for having been there in the past, but now be courageous enough to bid them good-bye. And in their place, embrace the person you want to become.
Veronica Lim is a leading author, speaker and executive coach with homes in London and New Zealand. Veronica went from zero financial assets and a mindset of financial worry to having a clear sense of financial well-being in less than five years. She now teaches people how to do the same in her book, DARE To Be Happy... http://www.daregoals.com