I’ve often found with clients over the years that one of the main challenges that holds them back from building a successful business and life is that they don’t have confidence and belief in themselves. Having self confidence about your ability to achieve what you want in life gives you the motivation you need to take the action to get to your ultimate goals.
Here are three simple steps you can use each day to strengthen your inner confidence.
Step One. Start a journal that contains three sections; Journaling, Success and Having Gratitude.
It may seem very simple and perhaps even to some a little woo woo, however it has been well researched and proven that writing things down helps to achieve what you want in life. “When you see it and believe it your can create it.”
a. Daily happenings. Writing is a fantastic way to get rid of feelings and thoughts that don’t serve you well. You can write a few lines or a few pages depending on what you choose to do and what each day brings.
b. Your Daily Successes. Most people don’t even realize that they have many successes during a day. A success is anything, whether big or small that is an action. For example: If my blog is ready on time that’s a success. If I don’t wait until the last minute to get things to my assistant that’s a success! If I empty my dishwasher instead of leaving it for the next day that’s a success. It can be personal or professional. By putting your daily success actions into a journal over time it allows you to see what you really do achieve each day. It could be two to three actions you took that day to take you nearer to your goals.
I like to take a look at the end of each week to see how much I actually did achieve in a week. As you look back on your entries of positive accomplishments, it will give you motivation to achieve even more. It also helps me to see where I’m just making busy work or when I’m being really productive.
c. Having gratitude for what you have, not for what you don’t have. Write 3-5 things each day that you are really grateful for in life. You will be amazed at what happens when you continue to do this and how much it changes your thinking to be really positive.
Step Two: Setting Your Goals. I always encourage clients to set short and long term goals then put them aside and come back to creating the action to achieve them. Instead of attempting to achieve everything at once break the actions into smaller steps that you want to meet each day. Each time you cross off the small steps, you gain more confidence in yourself and you’ll empower yourself to reach the next step until you’ve achieved the primary goal.
If your goal is to save money for a vacation, you can plan small steps like placing $5 in a savings jar each day. You’ll feel good knowing you’ve done seven things for yourself one week rather than waiting until you suddenly need $1,000 to fall into your lap for your upcoming holiday.
If you don’t finish a step, I encourage you not to beat yourself up. Lots of people are very good at that because they think they failed. In my book, there is no such thing as failure. Everything in life is a learning experience and the small steps help you to gain the confidence and self esteems you want to build.
Step Three. Read inspirational quotes. Search the Internet or purchase a book with lots of inspirational quotes on confidence or self-esteem. I have an International Monday Motivator quote that goes out each week which is both written and recorded. If you are interested in this, you can find all the information together with my free 6 lesson E.course at www.sayyestoyoucoaching.com. Use weekly quotes to jumpstart your week or a daily quote to jumpstart your day. Apply it to your life throughout each day. This will give you another success to add to your daily journaling. Always set an intention at the beginning of each day about how you choose to feel that day and then follow through on that intention.
And, always remember to take a little time to yourself each day because you deserve it.
After about a month I think you will be amazed at how much more confidence you have in your own ability and how much using these 3 simple steps are changing the way you think and your ability to achieve your goals.
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