Do Girls Like Jerks?

Psychology Articles | December 29, 2010

If you’re a nice and polite guy and girls don’t seem to appreciate you as much as they appreciate other guys who are much ruder, you may be asking yourself: do girls like jerks?

To say that girls like jerks may be too much. However, girls do tend to react to jerks a lot better and to nice guys a lot worse than we are traditionally educated to believe. Being a jerk with girls will definitely get you some results.

In order to understand why this is happening, it’s essential that you leave aside moral values and comprehend what women react to emotionally.

Sure, being a gentleman is considered good from a moral perspective, while being a jerk is considered bad. On the other hand, emotions are not dictated by moral; they are dictated by our beliefs and our psychological needs.

Considering these factors and how jerks project themselves, it is highly possible for them to create a positive emotional impact with their bad behavior.

The first reason this may happen is because while being a jerk may not be polite, it does reflect confidence. Jerks have enough self-assurance to be themselves and to express themselves non-apologetically.

Since girls are biologically programmed to respond well to sign of confidence and power, they will often be attracted to a jerk because his behavior reflects these qualities. Confidence can be a very potent aphrodisiac.

The second thing to consider is that jerks get results with girls because they have the courage to go for what they want. So, a girl may like both a nice guy and a jerk, but while the nice guy is too polite to express his interest with the girl, the jerk will not and this is why he may get the girl.

Jerks are not afraid to flirt, to escalate, to be assertive and to manifest their sexual intentions. They may even be pushy or somewhat aggressive but as long as they don’t go overboard, this will create a positive response from girls.

All of this doesn’t mean that being a jerk is the way to go. However, there are definitely some things you can learn from a jerk and some behaviors you can take from him. Take the best from both worlds, and you’ll get the best results.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Eduard provides communication coaching and works with men with the nice guy syndrome. He also teaches people how to be charismatic and writes on his People Skills Decoded blog.