“ If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative. Know when to close the account.”
When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BP), whether it’s a sudden realization or a long-known fact, it can be challenging. Those in relationships with BP individuals may be subject to unique forms of manipulation or toxicity. Recognizing these habits of the BP is the first step to liberation. I will address different toxic tools here so you can pick from both articles the toxicity that you are experiencing. You may not have all of them and I may not address all of the ones you are experiencing. I also am addressing emotionally leaving the damage of the BP. The decision to leave the BP physically is a personal decision and might be best made after leaving emotionally.
It’s also important to note the difference between those with borderline personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder. While the two conditions manifest similarly, especially in relationships, there are differences in the tactics the NP and BP individuals use to manipulate their loved ones. This article will deal with leaving and recovery from BP individuals, not leaving and recovering from the NP.
One important distinction I’d like to address before we tackle a few of the toxic tools of the BP is the difference between violence and anger. If you have a partner who is capable of violence, you need to do whatever is necessary to keep you safe. If you have a partner who is volatile and can demonstrate intense anger, but no violence, do not be intimidated by the anger. As you start to get healthy, be prepared for the BP to get intensely angry. Do not stop getting healthy because the BP has intense anger. This will take rigor and you can do it!
Read the full article here: https://www.recovery.org/pro/articles/spouse-has-borderline-personality-disorder/
Navigating Recovery from a Borderline Partner
Navigating a relationship with a spouse who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be a complex and emotionally taxing journey. The decision to stay or leave the marriage is deeply personal and often hinges on factors such as the well-being of children and personal values. Establishing emotional boundaries is crucial for maintaining mental health, as taking on a partner's emotional burdens can lead to failure. It's essential to recognize that each person is responsible for managing their own emotions and seeking professional help when needed. For a comprehensive guide on healing from a relationship with a borderline spouse, read the full article here.
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