Is Coaching Everything that It Is Cracked Up To Be?

Jul 12
19:34

2005

Allie Ochs

Allie Ochs

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Is coaching just a buzzword to capture another niche market of those seeking instant gratification and on the spot success?

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Personal or business coaching has helped thousands change their lives and achieve their goals. Yet,Is Coaching Everything that It Is Cracked Up To Be? Articles for the sceptics it still is a fuzzy concept with little recognition for its benefits. Think of Celine Dion, who with a voice coach claimed world fame. Yes, she already had a beautiful voice. Her coach captured and unleashed what is known today as one of the most mesmerizing and powerful voices in the world.

Think of fitness industry and it’s trainers and consultants. Trainers helped you train. Consultants explain what is available and you pick from the menu. How are they different from coaches? Is coaching just a buzzword to capture another niche market of those seeking instant gratification and on the spot success?

Let’s take a look at good fitness coach. He gets into your body and mind and learns all about your fitness or weight goals. In addition, he or she pinpoints what motivates you, which exercises you enjoy and those that you don’t. He designs a program with your physical condition, time commitment and goals in mind. Your fitness coach then teaches you how to properly use equipment, avoid injury, and reach your target. He makes sure your muscles are worked to peak performance and, maybe with the help of a nutritionist, designs your diet. He or she is right by your side helping you get the most out of your workout. He challenges you to reach your goals and believes that you can do it. He makes adjustments along the way and is always a step ahead of you. He is an educated, informed professional with the passion to guide you to success. Most importantly, he is more interested in your success than you, driving you beyond what you could accomplish yourself. Most people go to the gym hoping to get results on their own. For many it is not until they get a coach that positive changes start to happen.

Relationship coaching for singles or couples is no different. Most singles plough through the smorgasbord of hyped dating avenues hoping to find their one-and-only. Couples in unhappy relationships try to solve conflicts on their own, wait for a miracle or leave. Reportedly, those who reach out to a relationship coach have made remarkable progress in relative short time spans. Coaching is no longer for the selected few. It has become a source of real help for real people in the real world.

Just like in the case of Celine Dion, a relationship coach captures and unleashed the best of you. Whether you are in a relationship or single, a coach knows that you have everything inside to realize your dreams of a loving relationship. Unfortunately, most are unaware of their potential and instead continue to do what doesn’t work.

Relationship / dating coaching is not a long, drawn-out process. People have achieved success in as little as 4-6 sessions. How can this be, when many have a history of failed relationships or are in unsatisfying relationships? The focus of coaching is in on moving forward from where you are at right now. Coaching tends to leave the past behind and is concerned with your future. It is no secret that we all make mistakes while dating or in relationships. Coaching empowers you to move beyond the past and take a different approach to dating or relationship conflict resolution. It is this direct, head-on approach that leads to desired change.

Coaching is about results and positive changes. A good coach will support, guide and challenge you to action. He or she will share new skills, knowledge and insights unavailable before. Through coaching you will gain a new leash on love and life:

Singles:

  • Find out who you are, what you want and how to get it
  • Why you should ignore most dating advice and get real solutions
  • How to speak and live your own truth
  • How to be authentic and like yourself
  • How to challenged yourself and foster change
  • How to avoid the dating traps you have fallen for
  • How to stop dating by default
  • How to focus your energy on defined relationship goals
  • How to make the right choices and be responsible for them
  • How to date in alignment with who you are
  • How to date as a single parent
  • How to prevent getting hurt
  • How to give love freely
  • How to create intimacy
  • How to overcome insecurity
  • How to trust your instinct

Couples:

  • How to prevent relationship pitfalls
  • How to manage anger or resentment
  • How to focus your energy in a positive direction
  • How to communicate in a loving way
  • Learn to trust yourself
  • How to ask for what you need from your partner
  • How to stop being the victim
  • How to turn hostility into love
  • How to develop respect for each other
  • How to negotiate with your partner
  • How to create a secure relationship
  • How to be authentic and create emotional intimacy
  • How to built trust and commitment in your relationship
  • How to love without losing yourself

A good dating coach focuses on how your dating pattern spills over to every area of your life. A good relationship coach explores how your relationship defines you and influences all aspects in your life. A coach is able to uncover sabotaging behaviour, misconceptions about yourself, your partner or dating. He or she is able to connect the dots without being judgmental. Your coach becomes a mentor who helps you overcome and take action towards a fulfilling relationship. Based on his expertise, knowledge and passion he or she moves you over the tipping point and opens possibilities you never thought possible. Relationship coaching is for you:

  • If you value yourself and your relationship
  • If you want to radically improve all your relationships
  • If you want to escape pain and frustration forever
  • If you want to gain the confidence to date successfully
  • If you are open to learn new skills
  • If you are committed to your own success
  • If you can accept that your coach has your best interest at heart

Coaching has helped thousand successfully find a life partner or drastically improve existing relationships. It will also help you! When choosing a coach, check his experience, credentials and ethics. Evaluate his or her passion for clients and most importantly, trust your gut feeling. Coaching should be fun and productive; make sure you really like your coach! A good coach knows that relationships define who we are and how we view the world. Isn’t it time we took care of our relationships?

© 2005 Allie Ochs, Relationship Expert, Coach, Speaker and the Author