Selfless and Constant Love
A relationship begins to exist when two people willingly decide to enter it. But once they do so, they are transformed from being separate individuals into integral elements of a romantic union. They ...
A relationship begins to exist when two people willingly decide to enter it. But once they do so, they are transformed from being separate individuals into integral elements of a romantic union. They lose their individualities and surrender themselves to this partnership of hearts. Decision-making becomes shared in order that mutual respect is nurtured and harmony is maintained. Relationships depend on the couple’s constancy of affection, their appreciation of it being a priority and the reliability of each other’s commitment and their pacts.
Relationships falter because people sometimes fail to appreciate this. When a partner continues to hold on to his individuality and expects his freedoms to remain as they were prior to the relationship, this is when difficulties for the couple arise. When a partner continues to do things his way without the knowledge of the other or when agreements between them are not followed, the relationship begins to disintegrate.
Relationships are not about a partner limiting what he is willing to give. Relationships are not the same as business partnerships wherein people only invest what they want and hold back the rest. When a couple treats the relationship as a business deal, the underlying premise is that they are also preparing for the possibility of bankruptcy. They do not expect the relationship to last.
A relationship is a precursor to marriage where both members surrender themselves totally and completely to one another, respecting and trusting each other, and deciding together for a common future. When a partner does not fully appreciate the full range of what a true and serious relationship entails, then that person has no business entering it. Because that person sees only himself, regards only his own feelings and seeks only what he can get out of the relationship.
A relationship is not about selfishness. It is about selflessness. It is not about a person getting what he wants. It is about giving, sacrificing and a constant decision to love each other truly and completely. It is about people forming a secure and reliable union that sees a future together and strives towards its fulfillment.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Frederick Fabella, PhD is a research director, a dean and a graduate and undergraduate professor in the Philippines. He is an editorial board member of the IRP international research journal and a Fellow of the Royal Institution Singapore. He is the author of Transcendence: Essays For Personal Reflection. His blog can be found at Meanings and Perceptions.