Taking Control of Your Emotion to Empower You

Firstly, let’s look at what is an emotion. Emotion is simply the complex psycho-physiological experience of one’s state of mind when interaction between biochemical (internal) and environmental (external) influences occurs, for example, when someone provoke you, you become angry, when seeing some tragic, you become sad and cry, and etc...

Next, how are we going to take control of emotion?

We must acknowledge that emotion is an action signal that indicates “It’s time to make a change and take action”. If we don’t get the message, we tend not to be appreciative or resourceful in this emotional state and will start to hallucinate on the negative thought, like picking on the person, and etc.

We must change how we perceive or changing the procedure, like the way we behave and how we communicate things. For example, if someone makes you angry, instead of starting quarrelling, we should take this as a signal to make a change, like looking back on “Is it something that I said or did that has offended this person?” If yes, we must take action, like apologizing or etc. With this action, this emotion “Anger” will be gone and you can still maintain a good relationship with this person.

If the answer is “no”, it might mean that this person is purposely making you angry, what should you do then?  In this type of situation, you should revise your procedure and think back how you treat this person in the past and the reason why he performs this deliberate act. With that in mind, change the procedure, like improving the way you communicate or behave.

3 simple steps: a. Identify the message signal -> b. Clarify what has to be changed -> c. Take action until the emotion is gone.

In summary, understand, memorize the 3 simple steps and take action on how you can master your emotion to empower yourself to achieve personal growth.