Time Management Tips - Explore Double Messages To Untangle Time Knots Using These Simple Steps

Oct 10
19:27

2013

Paula Eder, PhD

Paula Eder, PhD

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Time management tips work when you are 100% aligned with them. But what about the perplexing times when you know what you value, but "somehow" end up doing something quite different with your time?

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Time management tips generate great results when you are solidly behind them. However,Time Management Tips - Explore Double Messages To Untangle Time Knots Using These Simple Steps Articles what happens when you are frankly torn about how to proceed? Do you find yourself intending to do one thing but then spending time doing something completely different?

In these instances, there is simply no way that conventional time management strategies can help you budge.. But that is no reason to give up. When you explore double messages, you begin a rewarding journey to reclaim those precious hours.

1. Don't Give Up - Look Back to Move Forward.

When you can't make sense of your time choices, perhaps you are simply working off of messages you received as a child. Why not take a few minutes to decipher these puzzling patterns? The insights are beneficial - especially if you enjoy replacing outmoded habits with more rewarding choices.

For this chronological makeover, you may need more than an accurate memory. You must spot when there's a discrepancy between what you say and what you do. And the same goes for perceiving congruence in others.. Did Mom and Dad always do what they said was most important? Or more often than not, did "What I do" bear no relation to "What I say"? When you delve into your history of contradicting actions and words, you develop insights that can integrate you on a profound level..

2. A Mixed Message Hits the Hardest..

For example, perhaps your father instructed you to make use of your time in one way but in fact his choices had no relation to what he advised.. What feelings did this elicit in you at the time? What do you experience in the present?? Conflicting messages that confused you as a child can easily lead to "disconnects" in later life. And these mismatched impressions lead to painful, lost opportunities. Fortunately, you can untangle these time knots and realign your energies. Better still, you have the power to make a significant move for the better right now.!

3. Double Message Exercise Brings Double Benefits.

A. Think of an example where you really wrestle with matching your time choices with your expressed values.

B. Now, recall a time during your childhood when someone you looked up to said one thing about time but did something quite different.

C. Jot down the message and the mismatched action.

D. Record how you felt about this at the time.

E. Compare and contrast your present struggle with what you witnessed others doing when you were young.

F. What's the same? What differs? What of patterns do you see? Patterns always tell tales.

G. Once you've discerned the gap between what is said and what is done, seek wisdom from your heart.

H. What insights can you gain from considering your parents' histories that will strengthen your capacity for change right now??

I. What past incidents have constricted your sense of possibilities?

J. Envision a path opening before you - one that leads to more rewarding time choices. Make this image as vivid as possible, so you can really experience your progress on this path. This visualization can motivate you and awaken you to opportunities to move forward.

K. Finally, visualize walking this path and aligning deeds with words. What do you require of yourself at this time?? What is your first step?

By participating in this exercise, you enjoy at least two benefits. It is essential that you bring gentle acceptance and full awareness to any time choices you once made that worked against you.. Empathy feels so much better! Second, you possess a stronger ability to change a troubling time choice, once you understand its roots.