Carla Valencia

Women Self Esteem

Many women who are suffering from low self-esteem suffer so because they have absorbed negative messages about what it means to be female . Here are some tips you can apply to develop your self esteem.

Self-esteem means that you to feel good about yourself and does not depend upon anyone else. self-esteem comes from inside. Having a healthy self-esteem means that you are comfortable with yourself and you are okay the way that you are. This does not mean that growth is over and done for you; it just means that self-acceptance is the first step for change.

Many women who are suffering from low self-esteem suffer so because they have absorbed negative messages about what it means to be female which come from their culture.

Some of the messages might have come from the popular media sources regarding what is "beautiful" and what is not.  These messages insist on following strict diets, having a "perfect" body, and so on, so that you feel that you can never be good enough.

Other women may been raised to believe that they have to postpone their own needs in order to please other people. This train of thought leads to the poor self-esteem that typically results in depression, anxiety, and physical sickness health. Women with low self-esteem don't go for regular checkups, exercise, or take care of their personal needs because they really don't think they're worthy to take up other people's time with these "trivial" matters.

In relation to men, women who suffer from low self-esteem stay in abusive relationships because they feel like they don't deserve anything better. Furthermore, if they have children they are unable to command respect and set boundaries because they feel like they are unworthy of the respect that parents need and, in fact, are worthy of.

Women who are parents have a great need of self-esteem. They are role models for daughters and, for their sons, they are the image of the kind of woman their son will seek out as a wife.

Here are some tips to help women increase their self-esteem:

• Learn to put yourself first. You won't be able to give what you don’t have. If you don't put yourself first, even if you are a mother to several children, will  make you bitter and resentful--and your children certainly don't need that from their parent.

• Don't allow other people to abuse you. You deserve better. When you live this out, you teach your children that they deserve better.

• Think about how your family and culture have influenced your experience of being a woman. Then, think for yourself how you believe a woman needs and deserves to be treated.

• Remember that you are equal in value to a man. Your gender is not a problem, but maybe your personal beliefs are.

• Overcome the victim mentality. Women must stop allowing themselves to feel like victims. They must also stop blaming men for their problems.

A woman's self-esteem begins with acceptance of being female. Your body is not exactly like a man's. Your temperament is not exactly like a man's. There is nothing wrong with you for being female--but, there is also nothing wrong with men for being men. Never let yourself be a victim, but also never put the blame on a man for your misery. A strong woman does not play the blame game--she overcomes her personal problems because she knows she can.

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