First Night Tips for Women

The first night for a woman is full of restless anticipation and heavy beating of hearts. “What is he going to be like?” Or better still, “why am I doing this anyway!”

Your first night could be with your husband or with your lover, whoever it may be; it will be somewhat the same. Here are some tips to soothe you down, learn the tricks of the bed and everything will be just fine:

1. Have a talk about it – Talk to someone regarding first time sex. Whether your counsellor, doctor or your lover for that matter. The idea is that you should be aware of what you are going into. But then again don’t create the whole thing before hand. It would be more like going for lunch at this time and at that place. No, find the place and lunch spot out of the blue and let the food surprise you. All you have to do is know how difficult will it be to hunt for that place or how to hunt for that place altogether.

2. Bleeding and Pain – You losing your virginity would mean that you are probably going to get hurt and also bleed to some extent. However, it probably won’t last for too long. Also always include fore play, so that both you and your lover feel at ease. Remember even your lover is in a lot of anticipation because he has heard a lot on this topic and is as scared as you are.

3. Will he like it? – This is an age old question, the possibility of your husband or lover liking you in bed. It is certainly a feeling that would go through his head too. Either ways, sexual satisfaction is a big question for both the sexes. If you are so bent on pleasing him, then just ask him what he likes to do in bed, the kind of foreplay and all the rest of it. Try and take it gently and do not rush physical intimacy. You are in it for the first time, so savour each moment.

4. Be Confident – even if it is your first time, do not be so overtly shy that you actually get the tag of being ‘boring’ in bed. Men like women who exhibit their sexual prowess with confidence; it really doesn’t matter if it is your first time. Be in the game like as if this will be the last time.  You could spice it up with some exciting lingerie and don’t fear any experiments.

In the words of romantic novel writer Barbara Cartland, “Among men, sex sometimes results in intimacy; among women, intimacy sometimes results in sex.” Just be intimate and play it cool, let it flow.