Getting Back Together After A Breakup - Score Yourself On These Simple Steps
Getting back together after a break up is not always going to happen, but your actions will certainly make a difference. Score yourself on how you have been doing so far and make sure you are not keeping your ex from taking you back.
I wish I could just give you a checklist that, if followed, would put you back in the arms of your ex, but it just is not that simple or easy.
There are however, some simple and easy steps that you should be taking to make sure that:
a.) You do not chase away the one you are seeking to get back together with.
b.) You are the kind of person that your ex would want to fall back in love with.
The benefit to doing these simple things right is that you are a more desirable person to be in love with, in part because your own self esteem is likely to be higher if you do them.
So if getting back together after a break up is your goal, rate yourself on how you have been doing in these areas.
First, do you treat your ex with respect?
I know I have been told in the past "you would not treat your clients this way". And she was right. Often we have a tendency to take for granted those closest to us.
Familiarity can breed complacence and laziness. Treat all other people with kindness, politeness and respect, but the ones you love all the more so. Not only will people feel good about being around you, they will begin to treat you with more respect also.
Next, do not invade someone else's space.
We all have our own personal space, even when married to someone! Once you have broken up, that space is likely to increase. You cannot expect to be around your ex as much or as close to your ex when at the same place.
You cannot be calling them constantly or trying to contact them if they do not want that.
Immediately after the break up especially you need to let things cool and not be a constant pest. Once some time has passed there are some specific steps you can take, but tread with caution even then.
Finally, focus on their needs.
What brought about the break up? Are there problems in the life of your ex that impacted the relationship that you kind of blew off? Maybe there is some way you could lend support to your ex in overcoming a difficult time.
It is OK to let them know you would like to get back together after the break up but what is in it for them? Are you what he or she wants and needs? If not, can you be?
If you want to get back together with your ex then you need to look at both sides and see what needs to be done to make a reconciliation a win-win situation for both of you.
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