Who doesn't love meeting new people and starting new and exciting relationships? It's great fun but you must stay in control and make sure that you are not making a big mistake. Find out if he is married and learn the truth about his background.
Your early warning system for dishonest lovers
Taking precautions when you start a new relationship has never been more important than it is now. Violent men,
confidence tricksters and of course married men or women who are going to break your heart at best. Everyone is a risk so how do I find out if someone is married and get a background check to help reduce the risk of making a huge mistake?
With a little planning and common sense you can find out if he is married or has a long term partner. You can also find out if he or she is a drug addict, an ex-convict or has active arrest warrants. Above all you can find out if he is lying to you and the best thing about this method is that it can be fun to do.
Why not just ask him if he's married
First dates should be fun times where you learn about each other so it makes a lot of sense to start a little investigation going while you have the perfect time to do it.
What you will be doing by talking is collecting information. Anything might be useful from his date of birth to his mothers maiden name. From his school and college qualifications to his ex girlfriends. Oh and don't forget to ask him if he's married or not.
Come right out with it up front and ask him directly if he's married. You have a right to know after all. You need to know about all his or her partners because if for no other reason, there is the risk of AIDs or other nasty things like that.
Collect information while you are having a good time
Even if your new boyfriend tells you he is married you shouldn't stop gathering information unless you decide to walk away right there. Being married might be the least of your problems. In fact you will then know that he is most likely lying to someone so you might trust him less. Get him to tell you stuff that you can check up on like his birth date, school, college, work and anything else you can think of.
The best way to collect your information is during your long, intimate phone calls. You can ask just about anything you want on those calls and it's easy to record it on paper at the same time without your lover suspecting a thing. Dinner and drinks are also good for loosening the tongue but write it down quickly when you are apart.
Use the information that you collect
A lot of this has to do with trust. How do you know if you can trust someone that you haven't known very long? Well the short answer to that is "you can't". Trust comes in time when you can safely say that you haven't been lied to. It takes time but you can speed up the process by actively looking for the lies and untruth that you are being told. Remember that you only need to find one lie to throw everything else you have been told into question.
You can do a lot of story verifying by calling around the workplaces and colleges that he told you about. Also try to quiz his friends and family. This can be a very effective tactic.
Do an online background check and look for marriage records
There are all sorts of background checking that you can do by consulting an online public records web site. You can even check marriage and divorce records but you don't have to stop there. Use public records web sites to find out if he has a criminal record or arrest records and much more.
How do I find out if someone is married? I do a marriage records search online as soon as I have enough information to allow me to identify the person from the results I get.
Don't skip the background check. Make sure that you do one on everyone you meet. You might be sorry if you don't.
