How to Get Past the 'Lets Just Be Friends' Wall

Is it possible to overcome the “can’t we just be friends” stage?  While it may be hard because your ex is trying her hardest to convince you (and often herself) that being friends is the better course for you both, you can overcome the “just friends” stage after a breakup.

You obviously still care deeply for your ex if you’re wondering how to get beyond her new wall of “lets just be friends.”  You’re also probably a little confused because you still feel that she cares about you.  Chances are she does still care about you.  She just might not realize that she still loves you.

As impossible as it may seem she doesn’t realize that she's still in love with you, it is very possible.  She needs to rediscover her feelings for you.  This is a process that is going to seem like déjà vu because you’ve already caught her attention once before.  The biggest difference is that she’s going to be on her guard about her feelings for you.  She’s likely afraid that if she puts any more effort towards you she’s going to end up hurt again.  You have to convince her that she won’t.

Because people are really fragile beings they want to protect their best interests; not feeling heartache again is one of her better interests.  She’s not trying to give you mixed signals; she just doesn’t realize her feelings are showing as clearly as they are.  You get to help her around her “lets be just friends” wall by showing her why she fell in love with you in the first place.