How To Tell If My Ex Loves Me Quiz

So he broke up with you... but he's still sending you mixed signals. Sometimes he's cold and indifferent, and other times your ex boyfriend is actually friendly. One minute he's calling you up, the next he's not even returning your messages. So what gives?

After a romance ends, it's not always easy to know what's going on. Guys can be very hard to read, especially if your ex is acting wishy-washy in his dealings with you. If you want to salvage the relationship and get your exboyfriend back, you'll need to recognize the signs he still loves you:

1) What Kind of Contact Do You Have With Your Ex Boyfriend Right Now?

A) No contact at all, we haven't talked or seen each other since the breakup.
B) I've tried calling my ex boyfriend but he won't call me back.
C) I talk with my ex pretty regularly, and we call each other a lot.
D) We email or text-message each other sometimes, but that's about it.

Answer A: Not hearing from your ex boyfriend is pretty common after a break up, so if this is the case don't worry just yet. If you recently broke up, there could be a lot of reasons he's avoiding you. Later on down the line however, you'll need to reconnect. If it's been more than six weeks after the breakup and you still haven't heard from him, you'll need to take a more proactive approach to getting him back.

Answer B: Never push or press your ex boyfriend for unwanted contact, especially if your breakup is recent. As time goes on there will be opportunities to reconnect, but for right now you don't want to be leaving your ex messages or sending him letters. He'll feel cornered, and may even think you're stalking him.

Answer C: Speaking to your ex on a regular basis is a great sign your ex boyfriend still loves you. If he didn't care or wanted the breakup to be permanent, he wouldn't be making such contact. That said, be very careful not to fall into an unwanted ex boyfriend friendship. Making friends with your ex can lead to losing him very quickly, as it's difficult if not almost impossible to make that transition from being friends back to being boyfriend and girlfriend.

Answer D: Intermittent or sporadic contact with your ex boyfriend is a pretty good sign that he's missing you. Make sure you're not the one initiating this contact all the time, or that the communication is too one-sided. You also don't want this phase of the reconciliation to go on too long, or you'll fall into the friendship trap. There are many excellent techniques for pushing past this type of contact and moving onto the next step: actually meeting up with and seeing your ex for the first time after the breakup.

2) How Did Your Boyfriend Word Things When He Finally Broke Up With You?

A) He said he needed some space, and time to think about things.
B) He said we didn't have much in common, and we should break up.
C) He told me he was sick of all the arguing, and that he couldn't take it anymore.
D) He wanted to take a break from each other, to see if we were meant to be together.

Answer A: Your boyfriend isn't asking to take time off to "think", he's probably looking to see if the grass is greener on another side of the fence. This is a bad scenario, but there are ways of making it instantly better by NOT agreeing to sit around waiting for him. Tell your ex that you're not okay with half a relationship: either he dates you or you're broken up - there should be no middle ground.

Answer B: In this case, your ex boyfriend is looking for validation. He wants to know what you think of the relationship, and if you're willing to disagree with him that you really are compatible. Be careful here, because your boyfriend also could be trying to change or mold you into his preconceived notion of what a girlfriend should be. Always be yourself, especially since that's who your boyfriend fell in love with in the first place.

Answer C: Unnecessary fighting is one of the biggest causes for a breakup. That said, fighting can also be a good sign. Why? Because as long as you're still arguing back and forth, the both of you still care. Fights happen in every relationship, but to make yours healthier you need to eliminate pointless fighting over things that really don't matter.

Answer D: It's usually good news when your boyfriend wants a break instead of a breakup. It generally means your ex still loves you and doesn't want to lose you completely, but right now he's also not happy with the way things are. Once again, don't agree to sit around with your hands folded in your lap while you allow him time to "think things through". A 'break' will become a breakup very quickly unless you're willing to use instant reversal techniques designed to make your boyfriend realize he actually stands to lose you through his actions.