After a breakup it's only natural to lose touch. When you're ready to get back together you'll need to reestablish contact with your ex-girlfriend. The right methods of communication can help repair your breakup. But the wrong ones might drive your ex-girlfriend even further away than she already is.
The hardest part about breaking up is not getting to talk to that person again. This is why most guys push and pressure their ex-girlfriends into getting back together right away after the break occurs. This is perhaps the biggest mistake you can make when it comes to getting your ex back. It's human nature to want to chase someone,
but chasing your ex right after she dumps you is one of the worst things you can do.
Knowing exactly when to make contact with your ex-girlfriend again is a key part of reversing your breakup. It requires a balance of being patient until she's approachable, yet not waiting so long that she's moved on and started dating someone else. In the beginning, however, you'll need to do one thing: leave your ex alone long enough so that she'll miss you.
If you've been chasing your ex, you need to stop. You can't send her love notes, e-mails, text messages, and call her on the phone. For several weeks you shouldn't contact your ex-girlfriend at all, not through your friends, and not through her friends either. The less contact you have with your ex, at least initially, the easier will be to get her back later on.
When enough time has passed, you need to reconnect with your ex-girlfriend. There are several ways to do this, but the best ones always include casual, friendly contact. If you left your girlfriend alone, chances are she's had some time to process the breakup. She's thought about you, and missed you. She's also wondered what you've been doing, since you haven't been chasing her. These are all good things. Do them correctly, and your ex might even call you.
Making contact with your ex-girlfriend can be done through e-mail, by sending her a friendly message, joke, or video. This is an innocent way of getting back in touch with her without letting her know you want her back. Your ex will need to acknowledge your message, and will get back to you a non-confrontational way. And since you haven't chased her in a long time, she won't think that you are needy or desperate in your approach to contact.
Another good way to reestablish communication is by calling and asking how she's doing. If you became close with her family while the two of you were dating, you can also ask how they are doing. This simple method of communication is an easy way to begin talking to ex-girlfriend again, without her suspecting you have ulterior motives. From there you can strike up a conversation, and make sure it's a nice, simple, casual talk without anything serious involved.
Getting back together with ex-girlfriend requires a definite plan. You can't approach your ex-girlfriend without knowing what to say, how you're going to say it, and what you going to do when she responds to you. Most guys concentrate too much on getting back in touch, but have no idea what to say once they do.
