Meeting With Your Exboyfriend - Getting Him To Want You Back

Knowing exactly what to do after a break up is one of the toughest things in the world.  Your emotions will be pulling you in one direction, but your mind might be pulling you in another.  You'll want your boyfriend back so badly that you'll be willing to do anything to get him... and that can be dangerous.  It can lead to you calling him, emailing him, and excessively bombarding him with text messages.  Even worse, it could result in you trying to meet up with or see your exboyfriend way before it's the right time for that to happen.

As much as you don't want to hear it, you really do need to leave your ex alone for a while - especially right after the breakup occurs.  When your boyfriend dumps you, he's going to feel strange and uncertain around you for a while.  Trying to get in touch with him during this critical phase will only lead to awkwardness and weird vibes.  You'll probably come off as desperate or needy, and once your boyfriend starts thinking that way it's hard to get back his respect.

To avoid making such big mistakes, the best thing to do is drop out of sight and break all ties with your ex.  Don't think of it as giving up or losing him for good... look at it as an investment in your future together.  You can't take steps toward a future with your exboyfriend until you're willing to let go of the past.  Don't cling to a broken romance thinking you can fix it.  Instead, let it go and start concentrating on creating a future relationship that will be built on all new ground with him.

When you're not around, your ex will begin missing you.  Every guy who ever dumped a girl always does the same thing: look over his shoulder to see if she's chasing him.  Knowing that you need him is comforting to your ex boyfriend, and gives him the strength to prolong the break up. 

As long as he thinks he can get you back, your ex has no incentive to reverse his decision to end things. 

Only once you've made him worried that he might lose you forever will your exboyfriend actually consider taking you back.  Leaving him alone makes your ex miss you, worry about losing you, and eventually question the entire breakup.

How long should you go without contacting your ex?  A month is a good amount of time.  While that might sound like an eternity right now, things get easier after week one is over.  Suck it up, and trust in the process of reconciliation.  Withdrawing physically and emotionally from your exboyfriend is the only way of getting him to want you back.  The sooner you realize that, the faster you can begin the process of winning him over again.

When enough time has passed, your ex will be likely to call you.  If he doesn't, he'll certainly be curious about where you are and what you've been doing... curious enough that a well-placed phone call will have him wanting to talk.  The best time to call your ex is during the evening hours, right before he goes to bed.  This is when the events of the day are winding down, he'll be alone, and he's most likely to be lonely and thinking about you. 

When you call your ex, keep the conversation short.  Give him the impression that you've been extremely busy, and don't stay on the phone very long.  Ask if he'd like to meet for lunch or coffee.  Dinner is much too serious and long, and you want to keep whatever meeting you have with him as short as possible - at least for now.

Whether your ex calls you up or you phone him, try to choose a place that's easy to reach and very casual.  In meeting with your ex boyfriend, you'll want to both be as comfortable as possible.  Talk about life in general, and try to laugh together.  Have fun, and keep the conversation light and easy.  Whatever happens, don't talk about your past relationship - especially the break up.  Right now you're just trying to get over the awkwardness of being apart for so long, and to break the ice.  Once that's done, apologize for having to leave so quickly and get away while he's still wanting to talk to you some more.  This will help make sure your ex asks you back out again.

If you're having problems getting your ex to contact you, it's okay.  Lots of women going through a break up don't often know the right ways of getting your ex boyfriend to call or meet with you again.  There are several excellent methods for doing this, and learning them can be a lifesaver when it comes to re-establishing the lines of communication again.  It's not like you can just pick up the phone without having an idea of what you're going to say... that almost always leads to disaster.

The best way to get your boyfriend back is to have a step by step plan of action.  Knowing what to do in every situation will always gives you an advantage.