Saving A Relationship Is Like A Teeter Totter You Learned How To Use In Kindergarten

Saving a relationship is serious business. Relationships and marriages have a huge effect on our life and our happiness. Should children be involved the ramifications are even larger.How you go about saving a marriage or other relationship depends in part on what the problems are. Sometimes it is just a collection of little things, other times there is something huge involved like in-laws or infidelity.Without making light of your serious situation, let me suggest that you remember back to the days of kindergarten and playing on the teeter totter.Teeter totters are a pretty cool toy and even adults can enjoy using one. But notice that how much fun you have on the teeter totter is pretty much in direct correlation to how evenly you are matched to the person (or persons) on the other side.By matched, I mean not just size, but also effort. If one of you is intent on the teeter totter and the other is clowning around or just sitting there, it does work too well, does it? But if you both work together, you can have fun on that simple toy for a very long time.Relationships are very similar. In a relationship, your size on the teeter totter does not matter, but the effort you put forward does. If one of you is dedicated to making the relationship work and the other is just along for the ride, pretty soon problems ensue.Saving a relationship works the same way. If only one of you is actively working to repair strained relations, the work is more than twice as hard.If you are that one, you may need some help, so here are some steps to take.First, try to talk to your other half and see if you can enlist his or her help in the relationship. Explain that you do love them, see some problems, and would like to work through them.See if you can locate the source of the biggest problem, if you do not already know what it is.Next, be willing to admit that you are not perfect. Even if your most serious relationship issue is something your spouse or partner did and they know it, know also that you are not without your faults. No one is, and that is OK.Be willing to work on your issues even if you partner is not willing to work on his or hers. Being the first to change is not easy, and is not always immediately rewarding. But know that it will make you a better person for this relationship or even the next, if this does not work out.A team effort makes the job of saving a relationship a lot easier. Try to get both of you on the same team.If you need help getting the "team" together or knowing what to do once you both are on the same side, come to http://www.RelationshipAdviceHelp.com and let us steer you in the right direction.