Why Is The Divorce Rate So High?

Commitment, or lack of, is one of the most popular reasons for divorce. Many feel that their spouses don`t make an effort and put in the commitment that they do. This is an umbrella which also covers incompatibility and infidelity. While many can happily commit themselves to one person for the rest of their lives, many more cannot. They many feel that marriage is a good idea at the time but once they have taken that step, they find themselves feeling claustrophobic and that still want to sleep with others. It would be very simple if everyone with commitment issues avoided marriage completely, but sadly they don`t, and the divorce statistics are there to prove it.

Lack of communication is another biggie. If you marry someone who is very deep and quiet, they aren`t suddenly going to change into someone who will discuss their feelings at length once you have taken your vows. Communication is vital in any relationship, and if feelings are buried, they escalate until they may reach the point of no return. Even if you have always kept a stiff upper lip and bottled up your feelings, you need to think seriously if it is worth risking your marriage by refusing to talk. Sadly, many do.

We have all heard of the phrase opposites attract, but over time those differences become huge. There may come a time when you have nothing to talk about and nothing in common. While we all need separate interests, we also need common ones that we can share with our partners. If you are chalk and married to cheese, this is a recipe for disaster.

Spousal abuse, both mental and physical, is a heinous crime against your supposed loved one. It is not only men who are abused, a growing number of men are coming forward and admitting the cruelty they have received at the hands of their abusive wives. Nobody has the right to hurt another human being just because they have anger problems or whatever, an abusive marriage is a living hell, and although it is adding to the already escalating divorce statistics, thank goodness abused spouses are now finding the strength to divorce these monsters.

One that always baffles me is when the reason for a divorce is cited as "different expectations within the marriage", huh? Do these people not talk before they get married? If the woman is very career orientated, she is not suddenly going to become all mumsy and have 6 kids and become a stay at home, and no man should expect her to. Marriage is the biggest personal commitment you will ever make, so before you take the plunge, please discuss your goals and expectations before you go through with it. Be honest with each other, if there are insurmountable differences, then best to cancel the wedding than to go through years of misery before inevitably ending up in the divorce courts lining the already bulging pockets of the divorce lawyers.

At the end of the day, there will always be divorces, but so many of them can be avoided by not getting married in the first place, bear this in mind.