Getting your ex back shouldn't be a battle. You want a reunion, not a rematch. Instead of steaming and scheming you should be tanning and planning. If getting your ex back is more of an obsession, you're probably ill prepared to take the essential steps needed to gracefully win him or her back. If you really want your ex back, better get prepared.
Taking the necessary time to prepare yourself for reconciliation with your ex will accomplish two very crucial things:
During this critical time, you must not attempt to contact your ex. Contact with his or her friends and family is also a no-no. Initially, this may be agonizing, however, it is vital in order for you to properly prepare yourself.
How long should this take? As long as it takes, and so long as you're really working on you. The most difficult part of this are the moments when you find yourself alone and your thoughts turn to your ex. I know that can sometimes be excruciating.
Let me share with you how I coped:
No More Silly Love Songs. Especially those "our songs". I actually found myself with the opportunity to enjoy new genres. I created a whole new library of great new songs (and even some old, old songs)
Friday Night Workout. It didn't take long for Friday nights to become my most favorite workout time. It's a new way to experience the gym, make new friends, and test the waters. I recommend a Friday night yoga or spinning class.
Meet Ups. This is a fabulous way to meet and mingle with like-minded people. At Meetup.com you can find groups and meet ups that match any of your interests including just hanging with other singles in some really fun places. I found myself going to 3 or 4 meet ups a week. I still do!
Go Back to School. Have you thought about the world you left behind when you got involved? What about the dreams you had? I learned a new language and how to "pimp" my bicycle during my transition.
Volunteer. Of all of the new things I tried after my breakup, finding opportunities to give back to the community gave the biggest lift. By the way, I met some really cool people.
In the appropriate amount of space of time, two very positive, scenarios will emerge:
First, you will become irresistible to yourself and other people and that makes you very irresistible to your ex.
Second, more doors will open for you than you thought possible. If the door to your ex doesn't open right away, don't sweat it, you're probably having too much fun to notice.
Either way you can't lose.
Seriously, if you really want your ex back, better get prepared and then you'll need a plan. Careful thought needs to be given to the actual steps, even the words you will use in getting your ex back. I recommend that you don't go it alone. I didn't and I know it made all of the difference. The information at http://reviveourlove.com was invaluable. Give it serious consideration before you do anything. I'm rooting for you! Good luck!
Why Did My Ex Leave Me? Failure to Communicate?
You’re here because you lost the person you love and you’re searching for answers. You came to this article because you knew that the answer and the solution lie in the heart of its title,Why Did My Ex Leave Me, A Failure to Communicate? Fact of the matter, it almost always comes down to communication.
I Want My Ex Back Now! Am I a Loser?
OK, OK, slow down. If you were to actually come to me and say, “I want my ex back now! Am I a loser?”, I’d have you look right into the mirror and say it again! Then I’d have you take out a picture of your ex and ask you to tell me, again, who is the loser?
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