The 8 things you can do to get him to propose to you!
How to get your man to propose is a lengthy and tedious process but hey, anything for love right? [:
Thousands of women around the world are stuck in this situation whereby they have a good relationship going, friends and family are close but the guy just doesn't seem to want to take the next step. They end up frustrated that their boyfriend just seems commitment-phobic. But hope is not lost and you can do something about it! Here are eight things that will help you bring your boyfriend closer to slipping a ring on your finger and asking you to be his wife.
1: Bring up the topic of marriage in casual conversation.
Mention in passing about a friend or relative having just gotten married or gone on a honeymoon. It'll prime him for the fact that you are considering the next step in the relationship, but at the same time are not trying to rush things.
You can use the following conversation as a reference.
"Hey the other day a friend of mine came back from his honeymoon by the beach. Funny thing is he lives on the coast and he goes every couple of weeks. I'd want my honeymoon to be somewhere more exciting and exotic. Wouldn't you?"
2: Start to talk about the future using 'we', 'us' and other words that imply togetherness
Use these words and he'll pick up on it immediately. Unless your man is a total brick, he will know something is up when you begin to talk about something more permanent. Talk about things like 'if we live together' or 'if we get married'. Watch for his reaction and see if he carries on the conversation. If he abruptly changes the subject or declines to talk about it further, he is not ready for marriage just yet. If he carries on the conversation, it is likely that he has been thinking about it too. Good for you!
3: Find out his opinion on getting married
Some men are content just staying in a boyfriend girlfriend type relationship for the rest of the forseeable future. Some men are indifferent about marriage and view it as a pointless waste of time and resources. His enthusiasm about marriage will indicate to you whether you should try to spur him on or let him be. For most men, this is the biggest decision of their lives. Don't try to force him into something he doesn't want or you'll kill the relationship you already have with him.
4: Find out his fears about marriage and reassure him
Change. The biggest fear of a man is that after marriage, things will change and it will be too much for him to handle. There are a whole truckload of other things that could make him apprehensive about tying the knot as well. It could be financially, he doesn't feel ready or he doesn't think he will be a good father. In all this, you have to reassure him that things will mostly stay the same and that the change will take place slowly and gradually at a pace that he is comfortable with. Stress on the importance of communication and that you will always be there to support him no matter what. It will build confidence and allow him to relax a little.
5: Appeal to your man with logic
Getting married has its own share of benefits like joint tax returns and having more options for insurance. Government benefits for married couples are better and if the need ever arises, there are plans in place for childcare and support. Men love numbers and figures and if the figures come up positive, he will have yet another incentive to propose.
6: Address the current and potential problems in the relationship
Nothing holds a marriage back more than unresolved problems and issues between you two. Find some time to sit down and really work out issues and problems as adults. Try to come to a compromise with each other and don't be afraid to hold anything back. Lay out everything on the table and come to a solution. This is going to be the person that you (hopefully!) spend the rest of your life with and if you don't come clean and be honest with how you feel about certain aspects of each other, chances are the marriage won't last.
7: Don't repeat yourself over and over
Men hate nagging. Marriage is a huge deal and once said, will be indelibly burned into his mind. A man will work up the courage and confidence to ask for your hand in marriage while dealing with other issues. But he will do it all in his own time and at his own pace. Rushing him and pressuring him with the same thing over and over will only drive him away from you and make you seem desperate. Give him time.
8: Ask your friends and family to give him some space
If you've thought about it, so have your friends and family. Managing the people closest to you can sometimes be a huge headache. Your family and friends may be tempted to egg him on in proposing and this will just stress him out more. Talk to them and try to get them to see that he needs time to think, decide and hopefully plan and prepare.
If your relationship has been going good, don't do anything drastic to make him propose. Let him take his time. After all, good things come to those who wait.
