After breaking up, there are some very important steps you need to take first to get back together.
If you're in the process of breaking up, getting back together should not be the first thing you try to do. You don't want to start begging to get back together. That might be all you can think to do right now but really it won't help. Most likely what it will do is chase your ex further away. It just confirms what he was thinking in regards to the break up.
What you should do might seem like the exact opposite of what you feel you should be doing. There are a few more things you need to do at this point.
Accept the break up. I know, this might seem impossible, but that's what you have to do. Communicate with your ex and let him or her know that you're okay with the split. Give them some space to think about your relationship.
Now stop communicating with your ex. This is important, it gives them time to understand the value of your relationship and to realize what he's missing now that he is no longer with you. Also, this phase provides the signal that you are moving on and that you're okay. That might really be the farthest thing from the truth, but that is what you want your ex to think.
The next step is to plan when and where you should meet, and what you should talk about. This meeting and what is discussed will give you an idea how your ex feels about you and about the chances of your relationship continuing.
