Congruence is important in getting her to call you. This is why you have to set it up from the very beginning in the right way.
For internet dating, whether you call her or she calls you is not necessarily a big deal. And especially if you are starting out it may even be desirable to be the one to call the women and ask them out, simply as a way to build confidence. But as you get more advanced and look back at your successes you will find that better things are more likely to happen if the woman initiates the process. But how do you get that to happen?The first item of importance is making a personal ad which communicates strongly who you are and what you are about. With this in place women will more likely initiate a conversation with you because YOU are interesting to HER. Not the other way around. You are simply selling and she is buying - which leads me to the second most important item. She has to message you FIRST. This means she is now attempting to get the ball rolling in your direction. Typically, she will comment that she likes your profile and will invite you to chat further. At this point you will either give her your IM or your number. In the interest of efficiency it is best to give your number, especially if you get a lot of responses. But if IM works better for you and you suspect she may be a bit shy, then by all means chat a bit first online, and then give her your number. And when she calls let her ask you out. Problems can occur when:- she messages you first and you ask for her number, breaking congruency that she is pursuing you- she calls you and you ask her out, breaking congruency that she is pursuing you- she messages you and when you give her your number she immediately gives you hers and tells you to call her insteadIn the first two cases the fault is yours. You simply jumped the gun and appeared to eager. This can kill attraction. Relax. Women can and do ask guys out. In the last case, she is probably accustomed to men chasing her and may have control issues. Arguing won't help, and since she won't gracefully accept the dynamic as it stands your choices are to either ignore her and let her call you, or simply tell her you don't think you two are a match (this is necessary for the tougher cases). There is no downside to this and of benefit you avoided trouble early on. Copyright © 2007 Vittorio Norman
Reducing NLP And Seductive Language Into Simple Terms
There are many claims that NLP (Neuro-Linguistic-Programming) can be a useful trick for seducing women. The pitch is endless on how to turn women on, remove barriers, and basically get much further than you would otherwise. It seems like a form of manipulation, one that can work. But does it?
The Relevance Of The Slut Defense
On some seduction forums, men talk about how to disarm or circumvent the social mask women have, called the "slut defense". This is a defense women have against appearing too "easy" for their sexual conduct. But is it really that necessary to manage this interruption mechanism women have?
Listening To Your Inner Voice
Overload of information is such a reality these days, that finding the truth you seek is a near impossibility sometimes. While it is true that being open to the various options is important, it is even more important to know when to take time out for yourself and find the answers from within.
